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Nugget # 99 Life lesson from a pair of 3D glasses!

-Teenager-watching-a-3D-movie-with-retro-3D-glasses-Hi friends,

With the summer vacation here, my elder son and I were watching the adventure movie Spy Kids.  Having finished Part 1& 2, we were eager to see Part 3. I repeatedly tried different movie links to find the 3rd part online but was disappointed for the movie kept appearing blurred. Wondering why this was the case with all the links, I checked again. It is then that I noticed the title which said Spy Kids 3D. The movie was intended to be watched with 3D glasses, only then would it appear clear. That set me thinking & thus was born this week’s nugget!:)

3D_glassesThe technology behind how the 3 D glasses work is simply to recreate the way humans see normally. In other words, since our eyes are about 2 inches apart, they see the same picture from slightly different angles. Our brain then correlates the images it sees in the 2 eyes; this is called binocular vision. 3 D glasses work on this principle. A 3D film viewed without the glasses is a strange sight as it appears fuzzy or out of focus. With the help of the 3D glasses, the same scene is now projected simultaneously from red and blue colored filters which separate the 2 different images so that each image enters only 1 eye. Our brain puts the 2 pictures back together and thus we see the image in a third dimension making us feel part of the action instead of being a mere spectator ! Hence we dodge the flying meteor or scream in excitement as objects fly off the screen.
As we apply this same principle to our life, we can see that just as in the matter of the 3D movie, the different angles was the real cause of the blurry images which could be corrected by using the 3D glasses. Similarly our outlook on life depends greatly on the perspective we choose to view it from.

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There are many problems in life that we could easily overcome if we would just see things from a fresher perspective. For instance, a person we know rushes past us and we presume it was just because they wanted to avoid us but in reality the person may not even have noticed us or even could’ve been rushing to use the washroom:)  I’ve learnt that the best thing to do in any situation is to always believe the best of everybody. If something may still be troubling us, we could try to clear the air by initiating a friendly chat with them. Sometimes people may just require some time alone to process things and cool off. But most often,when we choose to speak openly rather than make assumptions/ jump to conclusions,  we would be surprised as to how complicated our minds may unnecessarily make things.  Often this feedback would give us input to improve our communication skills.At best, the bond may be strengthened as qualities like genuine concern, honesty and authenticity are the best ingredients for a good friendship.

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Often a closed door may be God’s way of redirecting us to something better. Instead of banging on that door till it breaks down or till our fists bleed, we could trust Him for He sees the bigger picture. He knows what’s best for us and will ensure that everything will work out for our benefit & open the right door at the right time.alarm clock I am reminded of the time when my hubby as a teenager had to cancel a much awaited hiking trip planned with his friends as he was suddenly diagnosed with chicken pox. All his friends were going and there he was stuck at home itching all over! It may not have made sense to him at that time. In fact, it may even have seemed unfair at that time , however it made sense to him the following day when he heard the heart-wrenching news of how all his four friends who had gone for the trip had been sucked in by a sudden water spiral current and had drowned in the river they were swimming that evening. Had my hubby not fallen sick,he would’ve  gone with them & may have been the 5th victim of that unfortunate tragedy.Talking about perspective, what had appeared to him as an irritating, untimely obstacle was actually a perfectly timed blessing by the protecting hand of the All Knowing God. We can thus be comforted on our worst day that the very thing we may grumbling about, may actually be our biggest blessing in disguise. The best approach in life for us is : 1) to always be thankful for everything; whether or not it makes sense & 2) to live in the moment.“Life can only be understood backwards but it must be lived forwards.”-Soren Kierkegaard .

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Nugget of Life: “The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.”- Marcel Proust

Have an awesome week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
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Posted by on July 10, 2016 in LIFE LESSONS, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 98 Life lesson from a bunch of keys!

7233129-two-keys-for-homeHi friends,

This week I’d like to share a nugget that came to me a few days ago as I was locking our front door. After fiddling for some time with the key turning it over and over again in the lock, I said, “I wonder why this key just won’t turn.” That’s when my hubby called out to me, “are you sure you have the right key in?” That made me quickly check and I realized that I had the wrong key in. I then inserted the other similar key in the bunch. This time all it took was just one turn and voila! … Effortlessly the deed was done…door locked, we were ready to go!

That’s when this nugget dawned on me. Though the two keys in the bunch I used looked almost identical, they were not the same. Each was made for a different lock and only when the right key was put in, would it work.

Let me apply this key principle to different aspects of our everyday life:

1)Finding our Life purpose: We are all like the keys; having a special & specific purpose to accomplish. Only when we are rightly placed will we flourish or else we will always be dissatisfied or at the most we will try to put in our bare minimum. However, when we find out what we really enjoy and try our hand at that, no matter how small or insignificant it may start out, we will work with a spirit of excellence and that will lead to success.

HARD WORK + PASSION =SUCCESS. 

I’m reminded of the quote by Confucius: “Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.” Meaning that when we try something we love, we would enjoy it so much, we wouldn’t even call it work!

2) Relationships: All of us know people who we just meet and instantly connect without much effort. They usually with time, become our closest friends, maybe even our spouses. Such people are God-sent, one in a million! These are the ones the very thought of whom brings a smile to our face. The ones we click perfectly with just like the right key in the right lock!

3)Timing: Another area we could apply the key principle is in timing.When things don’t happen at the time when we want it to and we are forced to wait, we get impatient/ frustrated. We may even try hard to make things happen in our strength just as I had been struggling trying to fit the wrong key in the lock. Instead of messing things up, we need to learn to trust in Gods perfect timing. Eccl 3:1, 11-12“….there’s a time for everything and a season for every activity under heaven….God has made everything beautiful for its own time. …. So I concluded that there’s nothing better for Gods people than to be happy and enjoy themselves for as long as they can.”-Bible

Thus we see that just as the right key in the right lock can open and shut things, similarly when we are in the right place,with the right people at the right time, miracles happen! Life becomes beautiful!:)

little_blue_fishy_swimming_lg_nwmNugget of Life: “Everybody is a genius, but if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”- Albert Einstein.

 Have a awesome week!

Cheers,

Sparky laurie

 

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Nugget# 97 Life lessons from Baby N!

while-we-try-to-teach-our-children-all-about-life-our-children-teach-us-what-life-is-all-about9Hi friends,

As I was pondering on what to write this week, my one year old said forcefully “Sha”…I had heard baby N  say that word before and was wondering from where he had learnt it. I said “No Shaa baby… don’t say Shaa..”  But he continued to repeat it over and over again. There were many words that I had been repeating and reciting to him and he was learning; but here was this expression …that he had effortlessly picked up….and was repeating.

Later that afternoon as I was clearing up after lunch, I noticed baby quickly crawl into the kitchen and pick up something from the kitchen floor and put it into his mouth… “Sha”… escaped my lips as I ran to take that particle from baby’s mouth and quickly dispose it off. That’s when I realized to my utter amazement the source from where baby N had picked up his new fav phrase! shocked-smiley-emoticon

That set me thinking…

1)How often when we act mindlessly or sometimes due to preoccupation with many things, we may  respond in a way that may not even be aware of.

2)People who look up to us often catch the things we least expect them to and so we have to make a deliberate effort to be intentional (as much as possible) with our words as they do influence others.

To continue the story,  I couldn’t help laughing out aloud as I watched my lil one’s mischievous grin & sparkling  eyes as he was enjoy repeating “Sha” every time I tried to make him stop.

Let me apply this nugget to our life. Whenever we find imbalance in any area of our life, we usually think of change. To facilitate this,(full of good intentions) we make resolutions as we decide to strengthen our will to say “NO” to the addiction (be it food, TV, sports, work, people, shopping, drugs etc) Ironically, though we may succeed initially, it is only a matter of time that we will soon get tired of resistance & throw in the towel.

By doing this, we repeat the mistake that I made when correcting my baby. While correcting him, I had tried to make him stop by focusing fully ONLY on what needed to be changed. Unknowingly I had drawn both of our attention to that which we actually needed to forget. Was it any surprise that he remembered that word perfectly? The right way to correct baby was to teach him another word or to distract him or to entertain him with something more interesting that would make him forget what he was repeating. The same thing applies to us. Sharing  below some practical tips to help us overcome old habits /learn new ones.animated-smileys-thinking-20

Sparky Laurie’s 10 Rs to either learn /unlearn something: 

  1. Reason – Prepare a Declaration of Freedom for ourselves by listing the reasons why we choose to break free from that habit or learn a new way of life.
  2. Remind – Keep a print out of the Declaration (mentioned above) in front of us to empower us as we realize that we have chosen to break the power of the bad habit over us and be its slave no more/ Or work intentionally towards the goals we plan to achieve.
  3. Replenish – When we are tempted (to give in or give up),we could think of an appealing alternative action that we could engage in rather than use that time and energy in combat.
  4. Relate –  Seek a support system, for instance call up a favorite friend/parent/ relative  and converse about anything else except our struggle. No matter how many times it tries to creep into the conversation, switch gears. Give it neither our attention nor our time.
  5. Repeat- Say aloud, “I am made for better things than this. I will live my life to its fullest.”
  6. Review – Make a bucket list of the impossible things we would like to try in our life time. Even updating it when we hit our lowest point would uplift us and bring us back on track.
  7. Relax-Take a break, go out for a walk, breathe slowly. Get some sunshine. Feel the breeze. Smell the flowers. Thank God for life.
  8. Refresh –Do something for brightening up someone else’s day. Give someone a lift, smile at a passerby.
  9. Rejoice- Watch a Madea movie and laugh out loud… its wisdom and humor all in one!
  10. Recreate –Everyone is made in the image of God and He has deposited a part of Him in every one of us. Our gift is that which we could naturally do, that which brings us joy, that which excites & invigorates us. “That which honors God, blesses others and delights your heart, that is your calling, that’s your gift!” Discover and cherish your gift.

Coming back , I distracted baby N to see and enjoy a few other things and finally he stopped what he was initially saying. And just when I thought I had nailed it , ….guess what?  …..Baby N says out aloud…. “Sha…” LOL….:) ….well, I guess that’s going to take a little more time!

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The same may be the case with many of us as we try to overcome or learn new things. Always remember that No matter how many times we fail, each time we emerge stronger if we determine to learn and persist.

baby-pooh-icon-emoticon-032Nugget of Life : “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”- Socrates

Have a fun filled week,

Cheers,

Sparky laurie

 

 

 

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Nugget# 96 Life lesson from SUE THOMAS: F.B.Eye!

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Sue(Deanne) with Levi (Jesse)…Notice his ID!!:)

Hi Friends,

Firstly, let me apologize for not being around for a while. Hope you’ve been doing great. At my end, I’ve been going through some fine learning experiences here in the University of Life. Nobody really prefers to enroll at the School of Life’s Hard Knocks and this post is especially dedicated to all those of us who have graduated from there!:)

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The real Sue Thomas F.B.I. with her hearing dog Grace!

I’ve recently been enjoying watching the famous Sue ThomasF.B.Eye,a critically acclaimed groundbreaking TV series inspired by the true story of Sue Thomas,who although profoundly deaf from the age of 18 months, overcame significant obstacles to work surveillance for the F.B.I. Incidentally, Deanne Bray, who plays the role of Sue is herself a severely deaf actress who was also strongly encouraged by her parents to speak and read lips.

As portrayed in the series, Sue Thomas is about to start her first real job – which happens to be with the F.B.I. Though initially underestimated, very soon she is recognized for her intelligence and unique lip reading skills and she lives her hard earned dream when she along with her adorable hearing dog Levi join the bureau’s elite surveillance team.

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The awesome team from (Left-Right)  Dimitri,Tara,Bobby,Lucy,Myles,Levi,Sue & Jack

Joining Sue, Levi and Jack on the team are Bobby Manning, a charismatic agent who likes to bend the rules; Dimitrius Gans, the senior member of the surveillance unit; Lucy Dotson, the team’s right hand support person and Sue’s best friend & roommate ; Myles Leland III, the Boston born, Harvard educated, self-proclaimed ‘Einstein with a gun;’ and Tara Williams, the quirky but brilliant go-to tech expert.

This is a show about courage & perseverance, it not only keeps us on the edge of our seat, but also makes us laugh & cry. Though there are many lessons that one could learn from this delightful series (a real breath of fresh air in the highly contaminated & toxic atmosphere of TV entertainment today), the one that I would like to share is IDENTITY.

When we split up the word Identity, we come up with ‘I’  & ‘dent.’ The pronoun ‘I’ refers to the real us without any apology, compromise or mask ; it refers to the basic core of who we really are,our strengths and weaknesses just as they are.

The other part dent refers to 1) a notch or hollow made by a blow or pressure. 2) An impression or effect made usually against resistance.

Like I said in the beginning, we are all dented by life. To succeed, we need to grab life by the horns anyway with absolutely no excuses and seek to live out our dreams boldly and courageously no matter what the odds or obstacles. In the story, Sue cannot hear and even speaks with a lisp. But she uses what she has which is her unique lip reading skills that she has worked on since her childhood. Her mother has been her guiding force always reminding her that in spite of her disability, she could be everything she wanted to as long as she worked twice as hard. She skates, sings and plays the piano as well. If she was like any other person, I doubt she would have inspired us as much. It is her ‘Dent’ that makes her so beautiful and compassionate. She knows what it is to be unwanted, to be the odd one out. And that is what causes her to select Levi in spite of the abuse that he had been through. She in a way empowers him and he ends up saving her life!

It is when we fully accept the ‘I’ in Identity, which includes the good, bad and the ugly (dents & all)…. both in ourselves as well as in others , That is the divine moment when we have ceased to simply exist and truly live our life to its fullest!animated-flower-image-0091 Click for the  WHO I AM song with favorite sneak peeks from the Sue Thomas: F.B.Eye …Enjoy!

animated-dance-smiley-image-0044Nugget of Life : “When you know yourself, you are empowered. When you accept yourself, you are invincible.”-Tina Lifford

Have an awesome week,

Cheers,

Sparky laurie

 

 

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Nugget # 95 Life is like a game of Scrabble!

scrabbleHi friends,

Hope you are all doing good. It’s been a while now but I havn’t been able to sit down ,process and pen down my thoughts. A lot had been happening, the most joyful being the birth of my second son.:)

Today as I was playing a game of Scrabble with my elder son, this nugget came to mind.

We were playing a junior version of the famous board game Scrabble.In which each player gets to pick at random 5 tiles with a letter on it from a Scrabble Bag. We were then to place the letters on the Board which had different letters on it .Each player got a turn to place a tile of his choice and watch the board as the next player places a tile of his choice. The main aim was to complete the words on the Game Board. And for every word we made, we would get a blue coin. The person with the most blue coins would be the winner of the game.

Well as the game progressed, my son was leading and then suddenly I got a letter J and made a word he wanted to make. I watched in amusement as his little face crinkled up and he took the tile I had just placed on the board  (which entitled to me my first blue coin) and put it back in the scrabble bag and shake the bag so that the coin would be lost. …suddenly it struck me, isn’t this typical of what we do to one another in this rat race of life?

  • We all have been given tiles at random, we don’t get to choose and pick what we are given.- Each one of us has been given from God a unique fingerprint, personal characteristics, quirks, strengths and weaknesses. We got to learn to play with what we have got and allow others to play with what they have got.
  • Just because we don’t like a person or that person doesn’t fit into our idea of what is right or even a likely candidate for success , doesn’t  change the fact that the person does have the vital tile necessary for completing the word on the board.
  • If we discredit the person and snatch the tile from the person and put it into the scrabble bag and shake it as my son did, we may still be ahead in the game, but we have denied the next person the joy of contributing something. More importantly, the game comes to a standstill so   in a way we are obstructing the progress of the game.
  • We should never lose focus of the object why we are playing the game. As I checked the object of the game, this is what was written: To spell each word on the board using the letter tiles. Players identify the words based on the pictures on the board. Any player who completes a word takes a blue coin from the Scrabble Bag. When all the words on the board are covered, the player with the most coins is the winner. Wouldn’t it be better if we just focused on completing the words on the board rather than on who was winning…Of course there will be a winner for each game but how much better it would be to just play our best and enjoy the Board game and find out who wins most coins at the end…
  • The same thing applies to our relationships in life, the people we work with, our spouses, our relatives, our friends, our churches, let’s work in a spirit of Unity and try and empower one another by looking out for the best in each other and putting forward our very best.
  • Each of us has a vital piece necessary for completion of this Board Game of Life. None of us can do it alone. We need each other to complete the game. I am reminded of the acronym TEAM- Together Everyone Achieves More. True, we may achieve a lot in this life by pushing ourselves up by putting other people down but how much better to handhold each other and walk together to a quicker & better success. The pity of participating in life as if it were a rat race is just that in the end of it all, you remain a rat! We are more than that, we are unique creations of the Most High God.
  • Like in a symphony, all the musical instruments should play their part without any one instrument dominating; we all have got our little bit to do in making this life a beautiful one. You may think , what will I do with just this one tile in my hand?, True, alone we can do NOTHING, but when we come together with the other pieces on the Board, we are able to make meaningful words.

Back to our Board game, I corrected my son and he placed the letter back and I got my blue coin. We completed the game and of course, in the end, my 6 year old was the winner with 4 blue coins!!!:)

zeneszekNugget of Life: “ I can do things YOU cannot, YOU can do things I cannot, together WE can do great things.”- Mother Teresa

Have a harmonious week!

Cheers,

Sparkylaurie

 
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Posted by on November 8, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 94 Life lesson from a Spider!

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Hi friends,

Hope you are all doing fine. Today, I’d like to share with you a nugget that came to mind recently. A few days ago as I stepped out to the terrace to hang a few wet clothes on the clothesline, I noticed an awfully attractive spider sitting in the centre of an amazing artistically spun web. It was a black spider with long thin legs stretched out royally and a fluorescent yellow ring around its centre. Rather than bother with the spider, I spread the clothes at the two ends of the rope far away from it. It having rained that night, the spread clothes were still damp when I went with my load of freshly washed laundry the next morning. This time I couldn’t ignore the spider due to lack of space and so I braced myself and watched the elegant spider shrink into a tiny ball as I hit it with my slipper. As I spread my clothes, two life lessons hit me. Let me share them with you.

  1. All of us face our own spiders that come into our lives uninvited making us uncomfortable. These may come in the form of negative mindsets,unwanted interferences or maybe even our own inner fears that loom before us and obstruct our progress. Very often, just as I had ignored the spider the first time( since I had enough space to spread my clothes), we too ignore these inconveniences until we finally come to the point where we have no other choice but to deal with them. How much better it is to deal with them constructively at the first instance itself than to wait for things to get worse!
  2. Watching the fearless spider majestically seated in its ornate web, I hesitated to disturb it. The same thing applies to those looming giants in our life that we are often intimidated by. Trying to avoid confrontation, we end up accommodating stuff even when we know we shouldn’t. However, when I realized I had no other way but to deal with the spider, all it took was one hit with my slipper for its grandeur to be reduced to nothing. The same thing applies to those confrontations that we have been postponing. No matter how alarming the giant before us may seem, it is that moment when we muster up the courage to face our fears and do what we can to make things work that we experience real freedom.                         

smiley-spiderNugget of Life: “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.”- Dale Carnegie

 Have an adventurous week!

Cheers,

Sparkylaurie

 

 

 
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Posted by on August 14, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 93 Life lesson from an Electric Insect Killer Bat!

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Hi friends,

It’s been a while now…., hope all of you are doing well. This morning as I was peacefully sitting and enjoying some music with the windows open for fresh air circulation, I watched a fly enter the room. Within moments my serenity was gone as I was now totally distracted by the insect flying all around me. Agitated, I immediately reached out for my Electric Insect Killer Bat and started to sway it around. It was then that I realized that as I had failed to plug it in, there was not enough electric charge and hence it was useless. I immediately plugged the bat into a power source and waited for it to recharge, that is when this nugget hit me.

All of us are just like that electric fly swatter with immense potential and abilities. We are designed with exactly what we need in ourselves to achieve our God given purpose in life, but there is a catch…..just like that electric fly swatter was ineffective because it hadn’t been plugged into the power source and hence there was no charge in it, similarly no matter how great the potential within us, we will be unable to do anything unless we are charged into our power source- the Lord God Almighty. Trying in our own strength to make things happen is just as frustrating as swaying around the uncharged fly swatter. No matter how long or how hard we try, we will not be able to achieve success; instead we may get sore arms and be filled with disillusionment and self doubt.

The time spent in recharging the electric fly swatter was not a waste, as within a matter of 15 minutes, the bat was fully charged and fit to be used. I aimed and swayed it ….and that was the end of the pest! How similar is our case, as we draw power from God Almighty by spending time in prayer and the Word of God, we become dynamite and are filled with strength from above to fulfill our calling here on earth with an ease and confidence, how can we not succeed then?

funny-fly-swatter-smiley-emoticonNugget of Life: “Spending time in God’s presence is like the process of making tea. The longer the tea bag rests in the boiling hot water, the stronger the tea becomes.”- Author unknown

Have a great week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
 

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