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Nugget # 16 Life Lessons from Blogging

Hi there, this week’s blogpost is about the lessons of life learnt from Blogging. When we really think about it, there is really not much difference between LIFE and BLOGGING! After all,the Blogosphere is a miniature world comprising of all kinds of people you would find in LIFE!

Initially, I thought of drawing from the experiences of other bloggers but have realised that truly there are too many lessons I myself have to share.So just sharing some of them and also those of you early birdies who have been kind enough to share, the rest of you are welcome to share your lessons as comments,everyone of you is valuable to me.Ok here goes:

1) The whole reason why we blog can be summed up in this lovely phrase I got from Lorna’s Voice About Me column that caught my eye and has not left me since. We are all here saying the same thing:“I’m like everyone you have ever met and like no one you will ever meet.”-We want to fit in and we also want to stand out! 

LIFE LESSON: It takes strength to fit in and courage to stand out!

2) Every New Post is like a New Day : Every time we write a new post,there is a thrill,an anticipation just like the promise of a new day! 

LIFE LESSON: A New Day is a New Beginning!

3)Not everyone is going to get what you are saying all the time,neither are you going to get what they are saying all the time but always make sure to let them know when you do! –   I mean,let’s admit it, is there any person in our life that we understand 100% of the time ?

LIFE LESSON:  Don’t expect people to understand you all the time and be happy when someone does!Similarly, let others know when you understand them!

4)It’s not always about the hits! :  Does it really matter how many hits you get?I mean consider you have the greatest statistics in all of History and make it to Number 1 position…then what? The same thing applies in LIFE too, you get it all- MONEY, NAME, FAME, RECOGNITION but is that all? I think we need to “grow up” and  think deeper and look around and see not only how we can grow but how we can also help another on the way.I hate to say this but I feel compelled to : Many of the Newbies in WP Forums are snubbed/criticised everytime they introduce themselves instead of being encouraged and guided as to how to improve as they set  baby steps into this complicated new world of blogging. Aren’t we here because someone helped us get here?And as the quote goes:”If you don’t have something good to say,why bother at all?”

 LIFE LESSON: The more fruits a tree bears,the more it bends down!When we get FRUITS,let us not forget our ROOTS!

 5) Looking beyond the words: Call me simple/ intuitive/naive ,call me what you like…but I see the people behind the words.I ask the question:Is this person trying to encourage/ educate/entertain/help/be brave/ just be honest? These are the bloggers who I am drawn to. Sometimes we don’t get everything said but we get the spirit of what is being said and it makes us feel “I’ve been there too”,or I can relate to that” or ” I admire this honesty” or “your words bring much loved but forgotten memories” and that makes us feel like  responding to a post…DO WE READ WITH OUR HEADS ALONE OR ALSO WITH OUR HEARTS? The bloggers I am drawn to are bloggers who are not only intelligent and witty,creative and fun but also people who care.Out of the many,to mention a few and why they are so: Lafemmeroar (An Initiator who is not only fun but also an encourager), Marcia (a talented and versatile blogger who has a very refined way of speaking and a generous heart!),Shonnie (whose amazing honesty and openness as well as positivity is simply contagious),Jennifer (who is a versatile blogger with an amazing blog about her travel accounts),Nina (who draws pictures with her words but sadly hasn’t been around much!).Some of them are not my subscribers and some I dont subscribe to but they still are my favs for who they are! Let us subscribe to another person because we want to and not because we have to.Let us be able to commend a person for a well written post even if we don’t subscribe …;)

LIFE LESSON: The ones we will always remember are those who went the extra mile- who shared not only their ideas but also their hearts!

6)For me,every like/comment/subscription is a hand extended in friendship:   It’s because someone has taken the time to read or at least likes something written(in all honesty, some of us truly dont have the luxury of time to scroll down and read every word)but when someone appreciates what we have written,we need to TAKE IT FOR WHAT IT IS – a well deserved pat on the back! Also when someone makes a suggestion for improvement,take that also with a pinch of salt.The very idea of starting this blog came when a friend of mine told me that my first Blog (Lil Spark in the Dark)was too Christian to his liking! I realised what he was saying and hence started NUGGETS OF LIFE!

LIFE LESSON: Embrace all life gives you and then decide what to do with it!

7)It humbles me when I read great blogs of  high standard ,it encourages me when I read blogs I can relate to and understand and learn from.And it makes me remember the way I have come when I see someone share where I have already been.In life also there will always be people who are more mature and experienced and whom we can learn from,people whom we can share and grow with and people whom we can encourage as they find their way.Life is filled with opportunities to draw inspiration from,to be an inspiration with and to give inspiration to .

LIFE LESSON: Learn from others and share what you learn with others!

It’s been a LONG post ….and I could still go on and on …but to sum things up, this journey of blogging has been Humbling , Hilarious & Heart Warming, Educating ,Entertaining & Enlightening, Informative, Interesting & Inspiring!… I ‘ve enjoyed every minute of it and thanks to all of you Bloggers for making it worthwhile!

Hope you enjoyed this post. Feel free to share positive lessons you may have learnt on your journey blogging:

A Special Thanks to those of you who cared enough to share your LIFE Lessons from Blogging:

Thanks guys, I loved what you shared:

1)  STEWIE

a)Blogging has enabled me to express a creative side that I didn’t know I had in me.

b) I have learnt that there is no point in comparing the success of my blog (by stats) to others that may be completely different in content. Feedback from the readers that I do have and a steady growth are enough. Ultimately, as long as I am happy with what I produce, then that is the most important thing.

2) JENNA :  

a)Passion – have passion about what you believe in, even it is writing about it or talking to your best friend
b)Motivation – nothing will never get done if you don’t motivate yourself to do it.
c)Be Yourself – Don’t play around like you are a hard ball in life, be yourself, & be real.
d)Honest – Honesty is the best policy
e)Mood – Don’t beat yourself up if you are in a jam or feeling cranky. Do it when the right mood strikes.
f)Reach – Reach out to others & they will reach out to you

3) SHONNIE:

a) I have learned the great value of community. I know people knock cyberspace connections, but it was much easier for me to write about my journey of weight loss and hold myself accountable — even if no one read it — because for me it felt public. Turns out it was and that is even better. I have a LOT of accountablity partners. there is safety in numbers.

b) You also learn from yourself, about yourself. 🙂

 NUGGET OF LIFE:  Attitudes are contagious, is yours worth catching?

       Happy Blogging!

      

 

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 

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Posted by on July 27, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 15 Life lesson from a Cracked pot!

Dear friend, Is there some imperfection/ inherent flaw in yourself that you secretly wish would just go away so that you could get on more smoothly with your life? Well, I used to always feel like there was this inconvenient crack(something different in me that made me feel like the odd one out/ the ugly duckling) in the vessel of my life.I was so ashamed of  it that I would try to hide it with whatever I could – plaster / band-aid / glue, but no matter what I did, the crack would still be there…it would always remain… I was always focussed on trying to get rid of  that crack as I naively believed that then only I would be able to enjoy my life. Until one day, I realized how life was just slipping by and that I was fighting a losing battle because that vessel; crack and all was ME !   I needed to celebrate it for what it was and not allow that small crack to hold me back from being all that I could be. Who knows…..perhaps it maybe that little crack that turned out to be my biggest blessing after all!

Enjoy this beautiful story; (author unknown) to illustrate what I just said:   

An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck. One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walks from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full. For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do. After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream. ‘I am ashamed of myself, because this crack in my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.’ The old woman smiled, ‘Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side?’ ‘That’s because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.’  ‘For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers to decorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.’ Each of us has our own unique flaw. But it’s the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding. You’ve just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them. So friends, have a great day and remember to smell the flowers on your side of the path!

Nugget of Life: Let us never be ashamed of that crack in us. It is what makes the ‘M’ in “Me” and the “U” in “You”. We are all made “with a crack” on  purpose, allow goodness to flow through it and continue to be a blessing to those around!

 

 

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Posted by on July 23, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 14 Life Lessons from REGINA BRETT : A STRING OF 50 PEARLS

Hi … this week I’d like to share with you the best email I have ever received.I call it STRING OF 50 PEARLS. It is actually a column in the Plain Dealer written by a 90 year old woman named Regina Brett.

To quote Regina: “To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most-requested column I’ve ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more:”  

1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.                                                                       15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.                                                                                    19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
42. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
45. The best is yet to come.
46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
48. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
49. Yield.
50. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

I found them totally priceless and hope you too did!

NUGGET OF LIFE : Since Experience is a comb which Nature gives us when we are bald. We might as well, borrow another’s comb by learning from their experiences and walk with combed hair while we still have got some! 😉

 

Have a wonderful weekend!

Cheers,

Sparkylaurie

 

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Nugget # 13 Life Lessons from a Special Person in Life

Hi there, every one of us has a person who has turned our life around….and made us a better person by teaching us something we did not know before we met them. Has there ever been any such person in your life?

Maybe that person is a parent / Maybe a teacher/ Maybe a friend/ Maybe a celebrity /Maybe an author /Maybe a spouse /a boy friend/girl friend /Maybe a distant relative /Maybe even a stranger / a person whose name remains unknown to you till date but who has radically changed your life.

Sure, we all have many people who have taught us many things in life but if you were to select one person among them all, who will that one person be and what has that person taught you and thus made you what you are today?

I think I’ll go first. The person that comes to my mind is my 2 year old son. He has taught me many of the most important lessons of life that I could ever learn!

1)He has taught me how to Forgive and Forget-and how never to hold grudges – I just love him for that!

2)How to laugh from the heart – laughing at everything funny ; no matter where you are or who is watching!

3)He has taught me to enjoy the present moment – No kid ever postpones being happy for tomorrow. All that matters to them is to ENJOY wholeheartedly the NOW.

4)He has taught me how to dance to any music- I never danced before, always felt awkward and never graceful enough but now I dance with him and love it and he never makes fun of me! 😉

5)How to be grateful for everything- Anything new and different makes his eyes light up with curiosity and thanks.

6)How to be myself-Children are so bold and never afraid of being what they really are. It’s amazing how we can totally be unafraid to be ourselves when we are with children. Remember the Emperor’s New Clothes Story where only the little child told the truth since he was not afraid.

7)He has taught me that there is wisdom in everything around me: The child spirit which is always actively learning with wonder-filled eyes from everything around them can be so inspiring. No wonder they say : “Child is the Father Of Man!” 😉

NUGGET OF LIFE:  Listen to everyone and learn from everyone because nobody knows everything and everyone knows something!

Hope you enjoyed this post. Do take a moment to reflect on that extra special person in your life that has totally shaken you and made you a different person today. Would you like to share who that person is and how he/she has affected your life.

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

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Posted by on July 11, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 12 Life is like Juggling!

Of late it has been very difficult for me to find a few quiet moments to sit down and type a few words….and imagine my relief on reading similar struggles by many of you Mommy Bloggers! This post is applicable to everyone out there who wants to make it big in life and who sometimes find it a little tough! However I specially dedicate this post to all you brave Mommy Bloggers & Granny Bloggers who are pursuing their dreams of writing as well as taking care of little ones in spite of the many odds against them.

Dear friend, have you felt this way? You are in the kitchen cooking and out of the blue an idea just hits you….you head towards your laptop excitedly and slowly visualize the fuzzy idea taking shape and form and you start your tap dance on the key board….suddenly a cry from your little one (who just a few moments back had been happily playing with blocks) has managed to climb onto his toy box from which he suddenly slips and falls down. You now run to your crying child; quickly aborting your unfinished draft! …. At the end of the day things now calmer, you return to the keyboard and think of the earlier brainwave and sadly notice that it has lost its spark and turned cold so keep it on the shelf for another day which most probably will never come? It may be a comment you want to make on a blogpost that you thoroughly enjoyed …when something comes up and you forget….or that phone call to your best friend that you keep putting off and which never seems to happen because you’re waiting for a quieter moment with no screaming in the background?Talk about good intentions going astray!!!

Many times,we know exactly what we want but it’s as if our life is dictated by a 100 other factors …you have no complaints…I mean you sincerely love your life and wouldn’t trade it for anything else but wonder whether it sometimes gets you sidetracked from all that you want to accomplish in life? It can be compared to the having the remote control in hand and knowing which channel you want to see but just watching a TV show you hate playing because there are no batteries in the remote control and you are lazy or tired to get up and change the channel or get some batteries?

I must admit in the past few weeks, I’ve genuinely been torn between the desire to channel my creativity to pursue my dream of a writing career and being a loving and fully dedicated mommy and home maker….I have often found telling myself that maybe I need to put off writing for a more convenient time when things are a little less demanding ……maybe I need to slow down and that is what I have been sharing in my last few posts. But then again … I remind myself that life is not all about black and white and …this or that….we need to learn to swim in the shades of grey in between….that we mommies too need a few moments of sacred solitude to reach down into the depths of our spirits and souls which are so very essential to redeem and restore our sanity….and then a new word hits me- BALANCE

These days I am learning that Life is all about Balance…..something very similar to juggling balls. We all have our very own special balls to juggle- some choose to have more than others: career, family, children, academics, household work, writing, health, sports, relationships, friends, spiritual activities etc.It’s all about learning how to position each ball right so that we balance them all right without any falling down. With practice and the maturity of experience, we may someday become professionals at the juggling game and then maybe handle a few more balls with speed and ease!

Happy Juggling!

 Nugget of Life: While juggling the balls, it’s okay if some balls fall down   sometimes as long as we remember to pick them up and start all over with a sharper focus- getting better each time!

 

Click for a related post and some 10 Practical Ways to Make The Most of Your Days: http://sparkylaurie.blogspot.com/2011/03/slow-down-to-speed-of-life.html

 Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

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Nugget # 11 Life is like a Mirror

“Life is like a mirror. If you frown at it, it frowns back. If you smile at it, it returns the greeting.” – Herbert Samuels

 If Life is like a mirror and we should smile at it if we want a smile back, let me ask you a question, who is the first person you see in the mirror? Yes, the answer is YOU. Now another qsn : How often do you truly smile at yourself in a genuine, warm way? I’m definitely not talking about narcissism here, just an honest self appreciation of our very person-hood.

If you are like the vast majority of us are, we very often forget to smile at ourselves. Let’s just take a peek into what really happens during our busy days : When our bodies are tired and screaming for rest, we quickly gulp down some black coffee and try to meet deadlines. When our stomach growls reminding us to eat, we just ask it to wait and we continue the task at hand. When our mind tells us that we are reaching our limit and need a vacation, instead of taking a break we shut ourselves up by looking at the pending items on our ‘To Do List’-  Let alone smiling …aren’t we honestly being downright cruel to ourselves?

To put it simply “Don’t we just take ourselves for granted sometimes? We would never treat another person in a similar manner,then why do we do this to ourselves? To quote Elizabeth Kubler Ross : The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.”

 As our title quote suggests, have we through our self negligent actions unknowingly been frowning at our person in the mirror ; at ourselves? Is there anyone else to blame for the frowns we get back? The frowns which come in the form of –aches and pains / ulcers and tumors /burn out and stress/ anger, frustration and hurt? Is it any reason that overwhelmed in life we sometimes go out into the world unknowingly bearing a grimace and wonder where are  all the friendly faces?And yet when we are kinder to ourselves- by taking good care of our health and nutrition/when we get sufficient rest & recreation/when we create opportunities to pursue our interests, aren’t we actually smiling at our person in the mirror ; at ourselves?And then doesn’t the world seem a much better place?

It all starts with us learning to love ourselves and listening to what the man in the mirror is telling us. Give him your keen attention, listen to what he is trying to tell you and you will have a wonderful best friend for life. Ignore, abuse or frown at him and he will become your worst enemy forever.

A smile is the lighting system of the face; cooling system of the heart and boosting system of the mind….so keep smiling!

 

NUGGET OF LIFE:  Smile and the world smiles with you but always remember to reserve your very best smile for the man in the mirror, as  he is the one who deserves it the most !

 

 Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

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Posted by on July 3, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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