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Nugget# 97 Life lessons from Baby N!

while-we-try-to-teach-our-children-all-about-life-our-children-teach-us-what-life-is-all-about9Hi friends,

As I was pondering on what to write this week, my one year old said forcefully “Sha”…I had heard baby N  say that word before and was wondering from where he had learnt it. I said “No Shaa baby… don’t say Shaa..”  But he continued to repeat it over and over again. There were many words that I had been repeating and reciting to him and he was learning; but here was this expression …that he had effortlessly picked up….and was repeating.

Later that afternoon as I was clearing up after lunch, I noticed baby quickly crawl into the kitchen and pick up something from the kitchen floor and put it into his mouth… “Sha”… escaped my lips as I ran to take that particle from baby’s mouth and quickly dispose it off. That’s when I realized to my utter amazement the source from where baby N had picked up his new fav phrase! shocked-smiley-emoticon

That set me thinking…

1)How often when we act mindlessly or sometimes due to preoccupation with many things, we may  respond in a way that may not even be aware of.

2)People who look up to us often catch the things we least expect them to and so we have to make a deliberate effort to be intentional (as much as possible) with our words as they do influence others.

To continue the story,  I couldn’t help laughing out aloud as I watched my lil one’s mischievous grin & sparkling  eyes as he was enjoy repeating “Sha” every time I tried to make him stop.

Let me apply this nugget to our life. Whenever we find imbalance in any area of our life, we usually think of change. To facilitate this,(full of good intentions) we make resolutions as we decide to strengthen our will to say “NO” to the addiction (be it food, TV, sports, work, people, shopping, drugs etc) Ironically, though we may succeed initially, it is only a matter of time that we will soon get tired of resistance & throw in the towel.

By doing this, we repeat the mistake that I made when correcting my baby. While correcting him, I had tried to make him stop by focusing fully ONLY on what needed to be changed. Unknowingly I had drawn both of our attention to that which we actually needed to forget. Was it any surprise that he remembered that word perfectly? The right way to correct baby was to teach him another word or to distract him or to entertain him with something more interesting that would make him forget what he was repeating. The same thing applies to us. Sharing  below some practical tips to help us overcome old habits /learn new ones.animated-smileys-thinking-20

Sparky Laurie’s 10 Rs to either learn /unlearn something: 

  1. Reason – Prepare a Declaration of Freedom for ourselves by listing the reasons why we choose to break free from that habit or learn a new way of life.
  2. Remind – Keep a print out of the Declaration (mentioned above) in front of us to empower us as we realize that we have chosen to break the power of the bad habit over us and be its slave no more/ Or work intentionally towards the goals we plan to achieve.
  3. Replenish – When we are tempted (to give in or give up),we could think of an appealing alternative action that we could engage in rather than use that time and energy in combat.
  4. Relate –  Seek a support system, for instance call up a favorite friend/parent/ relative  and converse about anything else except our struggle. No matter how many times it tries to creep into the conversation, switch gears. Give it neither our attention nor our time.
  5. Repeat- Say aloud, “I am made for better things than this. I will live my life to its fullest.”
  6. Review – Make a bucket list of the impossible things we would like to try in our life time. Even updating it when we hit our lowest point would uplift us and bring us back on track.
  7. Relax-Take a break, go out for a walk, breathe slowly. Get some sunshine. Feel the breeze. Smell the flowers. Thank God for life.
  8. Refresh –Do something for brightening up someone else’s day. Give someone a lift, smile at a passerby.
  9. Rejoice- Watch a Madea movie and laugh out loud… its wisdom and humor all in one!
  10. Recreate –Everyone is made in the image of God and He has deposited a part of Him in every one of us. Our gift is that which we could naturally do, that which brings us joy, that which excites & invigorates us. “That which honors God, blesses others and delights your heart, that is your calling, that’s your gift!” Discover and cherish your gift.

Coming back , I distracted baby N to see and enjoy a few other things and finally he stopped what he was initially saying. And just when I thought I had nailed it , ….guess what?  …..Baby N says out aloud…. “Sha…” LOL…. 🙂 ….well, I guess that’s going to take a little more time!

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The same may be the case with many of us as we try to overcome or learn new things. Always remember that No matter how many times we fail, each time we emerge stronger if we determine to learn and persist.

baby-pooh-icon-emoticon-032Nugget of Life : “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”- Socrates

Have a fun filled week,

Cheers,

Sparky laurie

 

 

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Nugget # 95 Life is like a game of Scrabble!

scrabbleHi friends,

Hope you are all doing good. It’s been a while now but I havn’t been able to sit down ,process and pen down my thoughts. A lot had been happening, the most joyful being the birth of my second son.:)

Today as I was playing a game of Scrabble with my elder son, this nugget came to mind.

We were playing a junior version of the famous board game Scrabble.In which each player gets to pick at random 5 tiles with a letter on it from a Scrabble Bag. We were then to place the letters on the Board which had different letters on it .Each player got a turn to place a tile of his choice and watch the board as the next player places a tile of his choice. The main aim was to complete the words on the Game Board. And for every word we made, we would get a blue coin. The person with the most blue coins would be the winner of the game.

Well as the game progressed, my son was leading and then suddenly I got a letter J and made a word he wanted to make. I watched in amusement as his little face crinkled up and he took the tile I had just placed on the board  (which entitled to me my first blue coin) and put it back in the scrabble bag and shake the bag so that the coin would be lost. …suddenly it struck me, isn’t this typical of what we do to one another in this rat race of life?

  • We all have been given tiles at random, we don’t get to choose and pick what we are given.- Each one of us has been given from God a unique fingerprint, personal characteristics, quirks, strengths and weaknesses. We got to learn to play with what we have got and allow others to play with what they have got.
  • Just because we don’t like a person or that person doesn’t fit into our idea of what is right or even a likely candidate for success , doesn’t  change the fact that the person does have the vital tile necessary for completing the word on the board.
  • If we discredit the person and snatch the tile from the person and put it into the scrabble bag and shake it as my son did, we may still be ahead in the game, but we have denied the next person the joy of contributing something. More importantly, the game comes to a standstill so   in a way we are obstructing the progress of the game.
  • We should never lose focus of the object why we are playing the game. As I checked the object of the game, this is what was written: To spell each word on the board using the letter tiles. Players identify the words based on the pictures on the board. Any player who completes a word takes a blue coin from the Scrabble Bag. When all the words on the board are covered, the player with the most coins is the winner. Wouldn’t it be better if we just focused on completing the words on the board rather than on who was winning…Of course there will be a winner for each game but how much better it would be to just play our best and enjoy the Board game and find out who wins most coins at the end…
  • The same thing applies to our relationships in life, the people we work with, our spouses, our relatives, our friends, our churches, let’s work in a spirit of Unity and try and empower one another by looking out for the best in each other and putting forward our very best.
  • Each of us has a vital piece necessary for completion of this Board Game of Life. None of us can do it alone. We need each other to complete the game. I am reminded of the acronym TEAM- Together Everyone Achieves More. True, we may achieve a lot in this life by pushing ourselves up by putting other people down but how much better to handhold each other and walk together to a quicker & better success. The pity of participating in life as if it were a rat race is just that in the end of it all, you remain a rat! We are more than that, we are unique creations of the Most High God.
  • Like in a symphony, all the musical instruments should play their part without any one instrument dominating; we all have got our little bit to do in making this life a beautiful one. You may think , what will I do with just this one tile in my hand?, True, alone we can do NOTHING, but when we come together with the other pieces on the Board, we are able to make meaningful words.

Back to our Board game, I corrected my son and he placed the letter back and I got my blue coin. We completed the game and of course, in the end, my 6 year old was the winner with 4 blue coins!!! 🙂

zeneszekNugget of Life: “ I can do things YOU cannot, YOU can do things I cannot, together WE can do great things.”- Mother Teresa

Have a harmonious week!

Cheers,

Sparkylaurie

 
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Nugget # 40 Life lesson from a bouncing ball

“No matter how hard life pushes you down,no matter how much you hurt,you can always bounce back.”- Sheryl Swoopes.”

Children love to play with balls.All of us are aware of  how no matter how hard we hit a ball, it bounces back every time.Similar is our case in life no matter how tough life gets, we need to develop a “bounce back” mentality and get back in life.Easier said than done? Trust me, I know what you mean.This week I’d like to share 20 tips that can help us bounce back in life no matter how tough life may get!

1)Be your own best friend and Advocate– It is often because we put others opinions /thoughts/feelings before ours that we get hurt.We need to avoid putting ourselves in positions of self sabotage and learn to operate in compassion and kindness first to ourself and then to others.

2)Slow Down – Sometimes we just need to draw the curtains and get some rest.Most problems are solved after a good night’s sleep.

3)Nutrition- Drink plenty of fluids and eat healthy, nutritious and timely meals.Getting into the kitchen and cooking a wholesome meal is often therapeutic for me!

4)Music- Listen,sing,dance to upbeat music with uplifting lyrics.Avoid the temptation to listen to sad music,it  dampens the spirit.

5)Dress up and get out of the house- Go for a walk, greet the neighbours,enjoy the scenery,hear the birds sing.

6)Get Inspired – Read/listen/watch inspirational books/blogs/websites/movies.

7) Talk it out – Meet with a mature/trustworthy friend and talk it out. Avoid the blame game, instead think of solutions and ask for practical advice. All of us go through similar problems and we can learn from one another.

8)Get support- Connect with family and people you love and who love you.

9)Have fun – Do something you enjoy; visit a book store/library,go get a facial,buy yourself a new outfit /shoes.

10)Avoid Toxic People- Lets face it, we have hit rock bottom and so we now need to be careful in choosing the people we really want in our life. Read this powerful post by a blogger friend Ebony for a fuller understanding.

11)Spend time with Kids – Play with little children and make them laugh. They will love you in a minute and will let you know that without any reservations.I guarantee phenomenal results! 😉

12)Give thanks – Make a Gratitude list of things you are grateful for in your life.

13)Use your creativity to turn your negative experience into something positive– Paint/journal/write a poem/make a scrap book , do something constructive with your adversity.So that as time passes and the wound heals, you will have a pleasant memory of it.

14)Find the purpose behind your pain-Without overanalysis /reliving your agony try and decide what you can do differently next time to avoid it.

15) Give yourself the gift of time-  Often well meaning people will tell us to just “snap out of it” or may generalize/ minimize our pain without even knowing the full details of what is really happening. Just smile and ignore their comments and do what you need to do. We owe it to ourselves to be honest and real with our own feelings and to allow ourselves time to get over the pain.Only if the wound heals fully will we be able to stand again confidently, so dont rush the process.What may be easy for them may not be so for us and what may be easy for us may not be so for them; so let us take our time but stand strong when we do!

16) Hug someone you love- There are few hurts that a loving hug cannot heal.Hug a loved one, a child or maybe even a pet dog! 😉

17)Stop talking and start looking- When the tough times come, open your eyes and ears, look around and see who are still there. Adversity is a good time to recognize our real friends.No matter who we are, we are not entitled by birth to kindness from anyone and so we need to be grateful everytime someone genuinely cares enough to let us know they do and we also need to make a mental note of being there for them in their point of need too.

18)Smile- No matter how big our mountain or how deep our valley, one thing is certain and that is it will pass. So let us hang in there and say to ourself “This too shall pass.”  And then SMILE 😉

19)Realization of limits- People may definitely help/encourage us but it is God alone who can deliver us. Let us be grateful for every kind hearted person around but ultimately see the hand of the Almighty behind them.

20)Pray- Talk to God, He loves to hear you talk!

These are some of the steps that helped me during my tough times and may help you too.We all have our own ways of dealing and coping with tough times, feel free to share a tip if one comes to mind. It  may help someone. I love this quote: “Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”

Nugget of Life : “Winners never quit and quitters never win.”

Have a bouncy week!;)

Cheers,             

Sparky laurie

 

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Posted by on December 23, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 13 Life Lessons from a Special Person in Life

Hi there, every one of us has a person who has turned our life around….and made us a better person by teaching us something we did not know before we met them. Has there ever been any such person in your life?

Maybe that person is a parent / Maybe a teacher/ Maybe a friend/ Maybe a celebrity /Maybe an author /Maybe a spouse /a boy friend/girl friend /Maybe a distant relative /Maybe even a stranger / a person whose name remains unknown to you till date but who has radically changed your life.

Sure, we all have many people who have taught us many things in life but if you were to select one person among them all, who will that one person be and what has that person taught you and thus made you what you are today?

I think I’ll go first. The person that comes to my mind is my 2 year old son. He has taught me many of the most important lessons of life that I could ever learn!

1)He has taught me how to Forgive and Forget-and how never to hold grudges – I just love him for that!

2)How to laugh from the heart – laughing at everything funny ; no matter where you are or who is watching!

3)He has taught me to enjoy the present moment – No kid ever postpones being happy for tomorrow. All that matters to them is to ENJOY wholeheartedly the NOW.

4)He has taught me how to dance to any music- I never danced before, always felt awkward and never graceful enough but now I dance with him and love it and he never makes fun of me! 😉

5)How to be grateful for everything- Anything new and different makes his eyes light up with curiosity and thanks.

6)How to be myself-Children are so bold and never afraid of being what they really are. It’s amazing how we can totally be unafraid to be ourselves when we are with children. Remember the Emperor’s New Clothes Story where only the little child told the truth since he was not afraid.

7)He has taught me that there is wisdom in everything around me: The child spirit which is always actively learning with wonder-filled eyes from everything around them can be so inspiring. No wonder they say : “Child is the Father Of Man!” 😉

NUGGET OF LIFE:  Listen to everyone and learn from everyone because nobody knows everything and everyone knows something!

Hope you enjoyed this post. Do take a moment to reflect on that extra special person in your life that has totally shaken you and made you a different person today. Would you like to share who that person is and how he/she has affected your life.

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

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Posted by on July 11, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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