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Nugget # 40 Life lesson from a bouncing ball

“No matter how hard life pushes you down,no matter how much you hurt,you can always bounce back.”- Sheryl Swoopes.”

Children love to play with balls.All of us are aware of  how no matter how hard we hit a ball, it bounces back every time.Similar is our case in life no matter how tough life gets, we need to develop a “bounce back” mentality and get back in life.Easier said than done? Trust me, I know what you mean.This week I’d like to share 20 tips that can help us bounce back in life no matter how tough life may get!

1)Be your own best friend and Advocate– It is often because we put others opinions /thoughts/feelings before ours that we get hurt.We need to avoid putting ourselves in positions of self sabotage and learn to operate in compassion and kindness first to ourself and then to others.

2)Slow Down – Sometimes we just need to draw the curtains and get some rest.Most problems are solved after a good night’s sleep.

3)Nutrition- Drink plenty of fluids and eat healthy, nutritious and timely meals.Getting into the kitchen and cooking a wholesome meal is often therapeutic for me!

4)Music- Listen,sing,dance to upbeat music with uplifting lyrics.Avoid the temptation to listen to sad music,it  dampens the spirit.

5)Dress up and get out of the house- Go for a walk, greet the neighbours,enjoy the scenery,hear the birds sing.

6)Get Inspired – Read/listen/watch inspirational books/blogs/websites/movies.

7) Talk it out – Meet with a mature/trustworthy friend and talk it out. Avoid the blame game, instead think of solutions and ask for practical advice. All of us go through similar problems and we can learn from one another.

8)Get support- Connect with family and people you love and who love you.

9)Have fun – Do something you enjoy; visit a book store/library,go get a facial,buy yourself a new outfit /shoes.

10)Avoid Toxic People- Lets face it, we have hit rock bottom and so we now need to be careful in choosing the people we really want in our life. Read this powerful post by a blogger friend Ebony for a fuller understanding.

11)Spend time with Kids – Play with little children and make them laugh. They will love you in a minute and will let you know that without any reservations.I guarantee phenomenal results! 😉

12)Give thanks – Make a Gratitude list of things you are grateful for in your life.

13)Use your creativity to turn your negative experience into something positive– Paint/journal/write a poem/make a scrap book , do something constructive with your adversity.So that as time passes and the wound heals, you will have a pleasant memory of it.

14)Find the purpose behind your pain-Without overanalysis /reliving your agony try and decide what you can do differently next time to avoid it.

15) Give yourself the gift of time-  Often well meaning people will tell us to just “snap out of it” or may generalize/ minimize our pain without even knowing the full details of what is really happening. Just smile and ignore their comments and do what you need to do. We owe it to ourselves to be honest and real with our own feelings and to allow ourselves time to get over the pain.Only if the wound heals fully will we be able to stand again confidently, so dont rush the process.What may be easy for them may not be so for us and what may be easy for us may not be so for them; so let us take our time but stand strong when we do!

16) Hug someone you love- There are few hurts that a loving hug cannot heal.Hug a loved one, a child or maybe even a pet dog! 😉

17)Stop talking and start looking- When the tough times come, open your eyes and ears, look around and see who are still there. Adversity is a good time to recognize our real friends.No matter who we are, we are not entitled by birth to kindness from anyone and so we need to be grateful everytime someone genuinely cares enough to let us know they do and we also need to make a mental note of being there for them in their point of need too.

18)Smile- No matter how big our mountain or how deep our valley, one thing is certain and that is it will pass. So let us hang in there and say to ourself “This too shall pass.”  And then SMILE 😉

19)Realization of limits- People may definitely help/encourage us but it is God alone who can deliver us. Let us be grateful for every kind hearted person around but ultimately see the hand of the Almighty behind them.

20)Pray- Talk to God, He loves to hear you talk!

These are some of the steps that helped me during my tough times and may help you too.We all have our own ways of dealing and coping with tough times, feel free to share a tip if one comes to mind. It  may help someone. I love this quote: “Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”

Nugget of Life : “Winners never quit and quitters never win.”

Have a bouncy week!;)

Cheers,             

Sparky laurie

 

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Posted by on December 23, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 39 Life lesson in adversity

Hi friends,
The last few weeks have been life changing for me. Honestly speaking I was truly shaken to the core with every kind of adversity thrown against me all on a sudden. A fractured foot, misunderstandings, power failure,cold indifference , you name it, I experienced it. I was even asked “why can’t you think like others?” When I was asked the same question I‘ve often asked myself many times in the past, something inside me just broke. I think it was my spirit. To put things in simple words, I had hit rock bottom and was full of questions and with zero energy. Your sparky laurie had actually lost her “spark”! It was as if a dark cloud loomed over my horizon and I was paralysed to fight it!It was at this time that a very dear friend of mine (who inspite of having undergone a rough patch in her life recently ) stood by me with love and encouragement. Today she smiles with me as the sun shines on my horizon once again.Thank God for the wonderful gift of friendship! She is the kind of friend I aspire to be and I want to have forever!

The quote “In prosperity your friends know you, but in adversity you know your friends” suddenly became my life truth.  Today I realize how in the past I’ve wasted a lot of my time trying to make every relationship in my life work optimally , even some that never brought me any joy! In my simplistic way of thinking, I would tell myself if I would just be kinder or try harder, I could make this work but oft late I’ve realized that there is nothing more complex than human relations. People are not always straightforward and often behave in various ways because of different reasons and life is too short and too precious for us to sit and wonder why. Let us celebrate life with those wonderful people who we actually enjoy relating to, who understand and love us for who we are, who believe the best about us even when things may appear otherwise, who love us enough to confront and clarify maybe even correct us when we are wrong, whose thoughtful silences and kind actions speak louder to us than words, those special people the very thought of whom brings rest, freshness and joy in our minds. People who enrich our lives and whom we can learn from and grow with.
As I always say, there is a lesson to learn from everything in life and the lesson I learnt during this hard ordeal in my life was that some friendships work, some don’t and some change with time and that is alright! 😉

Nugget of life : “There comes a time in life when we have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who create it and surround ourselves with people who make us laugh so hard that we forget the bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy!
 

I take this opportunity to thank all of you my blogger friends who have spoken words of appreciation and encouragement to me especially in these last few weeks. Little did you know how much your kind words meant to me during that trying period of my life! Thank you from the depths of my heart! 😉
Have a fun filled week!
Cheers,
Sparky laurie

 

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Posted by on December 18, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 38 Life lesson from a FROG & The Liebster Award !!!

Hi friends,

This week I’d just like to share with you a short inspirational story of a FROG.

A frog was hopping around a farmyard, when it decided to investigate the barn. Being somewhat careless, and maybe a little too curious, he ended up falling into a pail half-filled with fresh milk. As he swam about attempting to reach the top of the pail, he found that the sides of the pail were too high and steep to reach.
He tried to stretch his back legs to push off the bottom of the pail but found it too deep.But this frog was determined not to give up, and he continued to struggle.He kicked and squirmed and kicked and squirmed, until at last, all his churning about in the milk had turned the milk into a big hunk of butter.The butter was now solid enough for him to climb onto and get out of the pail!

Each one can learn a life changing lesson from this simple story and that is no matter how impossible the situation before us may seem, we just gotta keep trying and never give up for sooner or later, often when we least expect it, the answer will come.

 

Nugget of Life:  “Success is not final, failure is not fatal.It is the courage to continue that counts.”- Winston Churchill

Also taking this opportunity to thank Joyce DeVivre who has graciously nominated me for the Liebster Award. Joyce is a wonderful woman of God who continues to touch many of our lives with the light of the Word and the love of God. Keep up the great work Joyce!;)

Liebster is an award given to blogs that have less than 200 followers and deserve more recognition and encouragement. Here are some guidelines in giving or receiving the Award:

1. Thank your Liebster Blog Award presenter on your blog.

2. Link back to the blogger who awarded you.

3. Copy & Paste the award to your blog.

4. Nominate 5 blogs to receive the award.

5. Inform them of their nomination by leaving a comment on their blog.

Though there are many names that could’ve been suggested. In no particular order of preference, I present to you the 5 bloggers (though I’m not sure if all of them have less than 200 followers ) who I believe deserve this recognition:

1)EBONY never fails to amaze us with her innovative ideas & creativity.Her writing is practical and yet profound. http://allthingsebonybrown.com/

2)ASHLEY’S blog title says it all: She is Real, she is happy : http://berealbehappy.wordpress.com .

3)PAM has an artistic eye for the most awesome pics. Variety is guaranteed but we can never guess what she will be clicking next!  http://roseribbonblog.wordpress.com/

4)HANNA is a writer with a great sense of humor and has wonderful practical tips for living life to the fullest.  http://goss-coaching.com/blog/

5)FI ,an amazing mum who shares with us the story of her Wonderfully Wired family. She is an inspiration to parents everywhere.  http://wonderfullywired.wordpress.com/

Do be sure check out these amazing blogs.

Have a wonderful week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 

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Posted by on December 13, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 37 Life is like cycling!

“Life is like a ten speed bicycle, most of us have gears we never use”- Charles M Schulz

Hi friends,

This week I’d just like to share some lessons of life from cycling. And to all you my friends who know to ride a bike, congrats from me, coz the truth is I still don’t know cycling! 😉

I think I was in the 3rd grade when I got a cycle of my own choice, it was a purple one. I was so excited to learn how to ride and thus began my first riding lessons with my sister and father. I got on excitedly and went a little distance and fell. I scraped my knee and cried in pain. After that I never got on the bike again coz I didn’t want to fall down again. I never fell down again but I never learnt cycling either!

The same thing applies to all of our lives. We are all naturals when it comes to playing it safe, honestly, does that even require any effort on our part? Isn’t it true that anything of lasting value that has ever been achieved was at first thought of as foolish and out of this world? I mean, who has all the answers and who is perfect all the time? Many of us may think we have it all figured out, but can’t just one blow of life make us rethink it all? Don’t we graduate after the examination? And even after the result comes, isn’t the learning more important? Each one of us were toddlers once upon a time who learned to walk because we were never afraid to get up each time we fell, nor did the fear of appearing foolish ever keep us from trying again. But today we fear the ridicule of people, being unpopular, not belonging, and so we either bury within ourselves the desire to learn/reach out to others/do many things we really would like to. I mean don’t we all do that which we believe is the best for us and the people in our lives? A lesson I learnt recently and still am learning is that we need not always explain ourselves, our friends don’t need it and our enemies will not believe it anyway!

Maturity is a lengthy process and takes time. Also,though we may be mature in one area of life, we may not in another area simply because we haven’t been put in a situation to learn that lesson yet!  Let us therefore not be afraid to put ourselves out there as long as we come back learning something. As the saying goes, “its okay to fall if you pick up something everytime you get up.” Often the people who criticize us are the ones who have already made and learnt from the very mistakes we are making in the present. So I think we need to be kinder to ourselves and allow ourselves to make more mistakes and learn irrespective of what others may think or say.

Many times the good we intend to do/say may be twisted or even taken the wrong way but as Dr Seuss says “Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” All of us have our own personal quirks and the only difference is that some of us are open about it and some are not. A picture perfect life is an illusion. All of us are humans, with failures and successes. Let us free ourselves to learn from our failures and celebrate our successes.  All of us by nature may not be risk- takers and we need so badly non dreamers too in order to bring the dreamers among us back to earth from time to time!;) Personally, I’d like to carry that childlike (not childish) wonder and simplicity to my grave but I also would like to die a wise person and that I believe comes with learning every day.

I’ve always admired writers who are compassionate & honestly inspiring and the truth is that often during some of the lowest points in my life (and all of us have them) I’ve survived by reading some such writings and learnt so much from their lives. I aspire to be such a kind of writer; to share lessons life has taught me in the hope that it may help someone out there someday. We never know in which way what we say/do is going to help  someone so I’d say just go ahead and say your piece and don’t you dear friend ever make my mistake of never learning how to cycle just coz I was afraid of falling! 😉

Nugget of Life: Everyone is a genius but if you judge a fish on its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing it is stupid!

Have a fun filled week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 

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Posted by on December 6, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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