“No matter how hard life pushes you down,no matter how much you hurt,you can always bounce back.”- Sheryl Swoopes.”
Children love to play with balls.All of us are aware of how no matter how hard we hit a ball, it bounces back every time.Similar is our case in life no matter how tough life gets, we need to develop a “bounce back” mentality and get back in life.Easier said than done? Trust me, I know what you mean.This week I’d like to share 20 tips that can help us bounce back in life no matter how tough life may get!
1)Be your own best friend and Advocate– It is often because we put others opinions /thoughts/feelings before ours that we get hurt.We need to avoid putting ourselves in positions of self sabotage and learn to operate in compassion and kindness first to ourself and then to others.
2)Slow Down – Sometimes we just need to draw the curtains and get some rest.Most problems are solved after a good night’s sleep.
3)Nutrition- Drink plenty of fluids and eat healthy, nutritious and timely meals.Getting into the kitchen and cooking a wholesome meal is often therapeutic for me!
4)Music- Listen,sing,dance to upbeat music with uplifting lyrics.Avoid the temptation to listen to sad music,it dampens the spirit.
5)Dress up and get out of the house- Go for a walk, greet the neighbours,enjoy the scenery,hear the birds sing.
6)Get Inspired – Read/listen/watch inspirational books/blogs/websites/movies.
7) Talk it out – Meet with a mature/trustworthy friend and talk it out. Avoid the blame game, instead think of solutions and ask for practical advice. All of us go through similar problems and we can learn from one another.
8)Get support- Connect with family and people you love and who love you.
9)Have fun – Do something you enjoy; visit a book store/library,go get a facial,buy yourself a new outfit /shoes.
10)Avoid Toxic People- Lets face it, we have hit rock bottom and so we now need to be careful in choosing the people we really want in our life. Read this powerful post by a blogger friend Ebony for a fuller understanding.
11)Spend time with Kids – Play with little children and make them laugh. They will love you in a minute and will let you know that without any reservations.I guarantee phenomenal results! 😉
12)Give thanks – Make a Gratitude list of things you are grateful for in your life.
13)Use your creativity to turn your negative experience into something positive– Paint/journal/write a poem/make a scrap book , do something constructive with your adversity.So that as time passes and the wound heals, you will have a pleasant memory of it.
14)Find the purpose behind your pain-Without overanalysis /reliving your agony try and decide what you can do differently next time to avoid it.
15) Give yourself the gift of time- Often well meaning people will tell us to just “snap out of it” or may generalize/ minimize our pain without even knowing the full details of what is really happening. Just smile and ignore their comments and do what you need to do. We owe it to ourselves to be honest and real with our own feelings and to allow ourselves time to get over the pain.Only if the wound heals fully will we be able to stand again confidently, so dont rush the process.What may be easy for them may not be so for us and what may be easy for us may not be so for them; so let us take our time but stand strong when we do!
16) Hug someone you love- There are few hurts that a loving hug cannot heal.Hug a loved one, a child or maybe even a pet dog! 😉
17)Stop talking and start looking- When the tough times come, open your eyes and ears, look around and see who are still there. Adversity is a good time to recognize our real friends.No matter who we are, we are not entitled by birth to kindness from anyone and so we need to be grateful everytime someone genuinely cares enough to let us know they do and we also need to make a mental note of being there for them in their point of need too.
18)Smile- No matter how big our mountain or how deep our valley, one thing is certain and that is it will pass. So let us hang in there and say to ourself “This too shall pass.” And then SMILE 😉
19)Realization of limits- People may definitely help/encourage us but it is God alone who can deliver us. Let us be grateful for every kind hearted person around but ultimately see the hand of the Almighty behind them.
20)Pray- Talk to God, He loves to hear you talk!
These are some of the steps that helped me during my tough times and may help you too.We all have our own ways of dealing and coping with tough times, feel free to share a tip if one comes to mind. It may help someone. I love this quote: “Be kind for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”
Have a bouncy week!;)
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