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Nugget# 97 Life lessons from Baby N!

while-we-try-to-teach-our-children-all-about-life-our-children-teach-us-what-life-is-all-about9Hi friends,

As I was pondering on what to write this week, my one year old said forcefully “Sha”…I had heard baby N  say that word before and was wondering from where he had learnt it. I said “No Shaa baby… don’t say Shaa..”  But he continued to repeat it over and over again. There were many words that I had been repeating and reciting to him and he was learning; but here was this expression …that he had effortlessly picked up….and was repeating.

Later that afternoon as I was clearing up after lunch, I noticed baby quickly crawl into the kitchen and pick up something from the kitchen floor and put it into his mouth… “Sha”… escaped my lips as I ran to take that particle from baby’s mouth and quickly dispose it off. That’s when I realized to my utter amazement the source from where baby N had picked up his new fav phrase! shocked-smiley-emoticon

That set me thinking…

1)How often when we act mindlessly or sometimes due to preoccupation with many things, we may  respond in a way that may not even be aware of.

2)People who look up to us often catch the things we least expect them to and so we have to make a deliberate effort to be intentional (as much as possible) with our words as they do influence others.

To continue the story,  I couldn’t help laughing out aloud as I watched my lil one’s mischievous grin & sparkling  eyes as he was enjoy repeating “Sha” every time I tried to make him stop.

Let me apply this nugget to our life. Whenever we find imbalance in any area of our life, we usually think of change. To facilitate this,(full of good intentions) we make resolutions as we decide to strengthen our will to say “NO” to the addiction (be it food, TV, sports, work, people, shopping, drugs etc) Ironically, though we may succeed initially, it is only a matter of time that we will soon get tired of resistance & throw in the towel.

By doing this, we repeat the mistake that I made when correcting my baby. While correcting him, I had tried to make him stop by focusing fully ONLY on what needed to be changed. Unknowingly I had drawn both of our attention to that which we actually needed to forget. Was it any surprise that he remembered that word perfectly? The right way to correct baby was to teach him another word or to distract him or to entertain him with something more interesting that would make him forget what he was repeating. The same thing applies to us. Sharing  below some practical tips to help us overcome old habits /learn new ones.animated-smileys-thinking-20

Sparky Laurie’s 10 Rs to either learn /unlearn something: 

  1. Reason – Prepare a Declaration of Freedom for ourselves by listing the reasons why we choose to break free from that habit or learn a new way of life.
  2. Remind – Keep a print out of the Declaration (mentioned above) in front of us to empower us as we realize that we have chosen to break the power of the bad habit over us and be its slave no more/ Or work intentionally towards the goals we plan to achieve.
  3. Replenish – When we are tempted (to give in or give up),we could think of an appealing alternative action that we could engage in rather than use that time and energy in combat.
  4. Relate –  Seek a support system, for instance call up a favorite friend/parent/ relative  and converse about anything else except our struggle. No matter how many times it tries to creep into the conversation, switch gears. Give it neither our attention nor our time.
  5. Repeat- Say aloud, “I am made for better things than this. I will live my life to its fullest.”
  6. Review – Make a bucket list of the impossible things we would like to try in our life time. Even updating it when we hit our lowest point would uplift us and bring us back on track.
  7. Relax-Take a break, go out for a walk, breathe slowly. Get some sunshine. Feel the breeze. Smell the flowers. Thank God for life.
  8. Refresh –Do something for brightening up someone else’s day. Give someone a lift, smile at a passerby.
  9. Rejoice- Watch a Madea movie and laugh out loud… its wisdom and humor all in one!
  10. Recreate –Everyone is made in the image of God and He has deposited a part of Him in every one of us. Our gift is that which we could naturally do, that which brings us joy, that which excites & invigorates us. “That which honors God, blesses others and delights your heart, that is your calling, that’s your gift!” Discover and cherish your gift.

Coming back , I distracted baby N to see and enjoy a few other things and finally he stopped what he was initially saying. And just when I thought I had nailed it , ….guess what?  …..Baby N says out aloud…. “Sha…” LOL…. 🙂 ….well, I guess that’s going to take a little more time!

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The same may be the case with many of us as we try to overcome or learn new things. Always remember that No matter how many times we fail, each time we emerge stronger if we determine to learn and persist.

baby-pooh-icon-emoticon-032Nugget of Life : “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”- Socrates

Have a fun filled week,

Cheers,

Sparky laurie

 

 

 

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Nugget # 95 Life is like a game of Scrabble!

scrabbleHi friends,

Hope you are all doing good. It’s been a while now but I havn’t been able to sit down ,process and pen down my thoughts. A lot had been happening, the most joyful being the birth of my second son.:)

Today as I was playing a game of Scrabble with my elder son, this nugget came to mind.

We were playing a junior version of the famous board game Scrabble.In which each player gets to pick at random 5 tiles with a letter on it from a Scrabble Bag. We were then to place the letters on the Board which had different letters on it .Each player got a turn to place a tile of his choice and watch the board as the next player places a tile of his choice. The main aim was to complete the words on the Game Board. And for every word we made, we would get a blue coin. The person with the most blue coins would be the winner of the game.

Well as the game progressed, my son was leading and then suddenly I got a letter J and made a word he wanted to make. I watched in amusement as his little face crinkled up and he took the tile I had just placed on the board  (which entitled to me my first blue coin) and put it back in the scrabble bag and shake the bag so that the coin would be lost. …suddenly it struck me, isn’t this typical of what we do to one another in this rat race of life?

  • We all have been given tiles at random, we don’t get to choose and pick what we are given.- Each one of us has been given from God a unique fingerprint, personal characteristics, quirks, strengths and weaknesses. We got to learn to play with what we have got and allow others to play with what they have got.
  • Just because we don’t like a person or that person doesn’t fit into our idea of what is right or even a likely candidate for success , doesn’t  change the fact that the person does have the vital tile necessary for completing the word on the board.
  • If we discredit the person and snatch the tile from the person and put it into the scrabble bag and shake it as my son did, we may still be ahead in the game, but we have denied the next person the joy of contributing something. More importantly, the game comes to a standstill so   in a way we are obstructing the progress of the game.
  • We should never lose focus of the object why we are playing the game. As I checked the object of the game, this is what was written: To spell each word on the board using the letter tiles. Players identify the words based on the pictures on the board. Any player who completes a word takes a blue coin from the Scrabble Bag. When all the words on the board are covered, the player with the most coins is the winner. Wouldn’t it be better if we just focused on completing the words on the board rather than on who was winning…Of course there will be a winner for each game but how much better it would be to just play our best and enjoy the Board game and find out who wins most coins at the end…
  • The same thing applies to our relationships in life, the people we work with, our spouses, our relatives, our friends, our churches, let’s work in a spirit of Unity and try and empower one another by looking out for the best in each other and putting forward our very best.
  • Each of us has a vital piece necessary for completion of this Board Game of Life. None of us can do it alone. We need each other to complete the game. I am reminded of the acronym TEAM- Together Everyone Achieves More. True, we may achieve a lot in this life by pushing ourselves up by putting other people down but how much better to handhold each other and walk together to a quicker & better success. The pity of participating in life as if it were a rat race is just that in the end of it all, you remain a rat! We are more than that, we are unique creations of the Most High God.
  • Like in a symphony, all the musical instruments should play their part without any one instrument dominating; we all have got our little bit to do in making this life a beautiful one. You may think , what will I do with just this one tile in my hand?, True, alone we can do NOTHING, but when we come together with the other pieces on the Board, we are able to make meaningful words.

Back to our Board game, I corrected my son and he placed the letter back and I got my blue coin. We completed the game and of course, in the end, my 6 year old was the winner with 4 blue coins!!! 🙂

zeneszekNugget of Life: “ I can do things YOU cannot, YOU can do things I cannot, together WE can do great things.”- Mother Teresa

Have a harmonious week!

Cheers,

Sparkylaurie

 
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Posted by on November 8, 2015 in Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 84 Life lesson from one of the best American Movies ever made!

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Hi friends,

This week I’d like to share something that came to mind as I watched the 1946 American Christmas Drama film called ‘It’s a Wonderful Life.’

It is the story of George Bailey , a man who has had to give up his dreams of traveling and going places in order to help others. Frustrated and feeling like a failure he opts for suicide on Christmas Eve. He is miraculously saved by the intervention of his guardian angel Clarence who shows George all the lives he has unknowingly touched and how different life in his community would be had he never been born.

This movie set me thinking of how many of us like George may not really be aware of the lives that we are responsible for changing by some small act of ours. Often we may not be doing any great thing, many times we may never even be in the lime light only behind doors and doing our duties faithfully not even aware of the mighty influence we may be having on someone somewhere! At this point I am reminded of an incident when my sister-in-law shared some money with a family who was struggling. Later on they told her that they were contemplating suicide and it was her action that made them change their mind. We may never fully know here and now how crucial our small acts of concern and kindness can be. It took a supernatural visitation to open George’s eyes. Let this movie do that for us and open our eyes to the truth that truly, our life is pretty awesome and it’s a Wonderful Life after all!

For those of you who would like to watch the movie, here’s the link: http://youtu.be/frXklECPkD0

Penguins_Do-Good-lilpenguinshop-3648743 Nugget of Life: “Go into the world and do well but more importantly go into the world and do good.”- Minor Myers Jr

Have a wonderful week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
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Posted by on September 2, 2013 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 80 Life is like a Xylophone!

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Hi friends,

Hope you all are doing well. It’s been a while now since I have been able to share something with you. The truth is that a lot has been happening and I’ve been pushing myself out of my comfort zones and inviting with open arms a wide variety of experiences. To be honest, it has not been all that comfy but the ride has been a good one and left me richer with precious memories and good life lessons.

The other day as I was picking up my son’s toys and placing them back in the box, I came across his xylophone. I just struck the bars and realized how differently odd each sound was. In fact there was hardly any melody or harmony to hear and yet as I slowly struck them from one end to the other I could hear the sweet musical tune of the xylophone that we usually hear and that made me think about the many different kinds of people we encounter. With some it’s an instant click and it’s great when we can effortlessly connect. But then this is not always the case. Often everything everyone says or does may not make sense to us. People think, behave and act differently from us and we from them. It is easy to surround ourselves with like- minded individuals but then where is the challenge in making beautiful music when every sound is similar? The real beauty lies in making something harmonious out of the chaotic.

Each individual is a unique and precious creation of the Master Craftsman and the people He has allowed in our lives are there for a definite and designed purpose. Our finite minds may never fully the grasp the ways of our Maker. It is only when we allow Him to work through us and strike every bar, that we hear such beautiful music that we may never have heard before!

th_bf-xylophone-smileyNugget of Life: Life is a Xylophone; make sure you lightly strike all the bars from one end to the other;   you may end up hearing the most beautiful tune ever!

Have a wonderful week!

Cheers,

Sparky laurie

 
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Posted by on March 3, 2013 in Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 79 Life is like a Garden!

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“Life is like a garden. You reap what you sow. From your own fertile soil your seedlings do grow.”

Hi friends,

It’s been a long while since I have sat down and penned something and so it is with great joy that I share with you something that came to mind this morning. Hope it speaks something to you.

Each of our lives is like a garden that has been entrusted to our care. Meaning each of us is the Gardener to the garden of our life.

1)  Unique : No two plots or pieces of land are identical. Whatever we have; our families, our time, our talents, our friends, our relatives, our homes are where we cultivate our garden. We need to love and accept what we have been given and make the most beautiful garden out of it.

2) Free Choice : We are all given freedom to grow whatever we want in our garden. We can grow flowers or ornamental plants or fruits or vegetables or we may just leave it as it is. The choice is ours.

3) Investment Required: Once we have made our choice, we will have to invest into the garden. We need to give it time, energy,money in order to purchase the necessary tools, fertilizer,seed, etc. Some amount of sacrifice may be required if we want to do something worthwhile in life.

4) Ploughing the land : This means we actually dig out the hard soil of our garden and thus make it softer and ready to receive the seed we plan to sow. This refers to the teachability of the soil of our hearts to receive.

5) Uprooting the weeds: There may already be many weeds and other outgrowth that may spoil the garden and choke the good seed and so we will need to pluck out all of them to ensure a healthy environment for the proper growth of the plants we want to grow. This refers to the uprooting of our wrong mindsets and attitudes many which have grown strong roots as they have been there for a long time. This process may be time consuming, tiring and often even painful but it is inevitable if we want to have a beautiful garden.

6) Sowing good seed: The seed that we sow refers to the thoughts we meditate on , the words we speak and the actions we perform. If we speak life( positive,uplifting,encouraging words), we will sow life. Speaking death(negative words ,critical attitudes towards ourselves or others) will cause us to reap death.

7) Commitment to stick: Often on reaching this stage we may feel that our job is done. As actually we have completed the doing, we may get impatient to see the desired result but we are forced to wait patiently as digging up the soil is only going to destroy our hard work. This is a crucial time when we need to commit to stay till we get the desired result. Many times thinking that what we have been doing has not yielded results we may be tempted to give up our efforts to maintain what we have started. Just like we need to continue watering the garden and  giving it the necessary fertilizer and believing that one day we will see the result of our hard work, there are many times in life when we may have to just stay faithfully continuing what we know we have to do whether we feel like it or not.

8) Irrelevancy of Comparison: As mentioned in the 1st point each plot of land given was unique and the choices that we made were ours, the work we put into it, the seed we sowed were all different, then how can we compare our garden with another’s? Often times we may look over the fence and see our neighbours’ garden in full bloom while all we see in ours is brown patches of earth. We may then be envious or we may call them lucky, we may even feel our efforts fruitless and the waiting may suddenly seem longer but then we need to remember that they may have started long before us, they may have worked harder, their choice of crop may be different from ours and so in reality the comparison is really not at all relevant. Instead let us  enjoy the beauty of their garden and taste the sweetness of their fruit all the while believing that one day our garden too will be beautiful and then they too will rejoice with us.

animated-smileys-garden-007Nugget of Life: Your life is your garden and you are the gardener. Make sure you make the most beautiful garden that you can while you are here on earth. Surely, one day someone may stop by just to tell you how they admire the work of your hands!

Have a beautiful week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
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Posted by on January 10, 2013 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 64 Life is like a box of Crayons!

Hi friends,

This week I have compared the different colored crayons from a box to the 4 different kinds of personality types  we meet in life. Hope you enjoy reading this post as much as I enjoyed writing it! 🙂

Each of us is given a box of crayons to color with.

Firstly, there are colors like orange & pink that brighten our picture- Just like the bubbly, upbeat sanguine personality types who brighten up our lives.

Next are the loud red and yellows much like the choleric personalities who though domineering, are the real Initiators who make things happen.

Then there are the blues, purple and the black which darkens our picture. These are the melancholic personalities; the thinkers and analyzers who bring to our attention details for notice.

Finally, there are the “cool” colors like green and brown ; who are like the easy going phlegmatic personalities – so flexible and relaxed that they make the best out of any color combination.

Just as we need all of the above colors to make a beautiful portrait on the white paper, in the same way, we need all 4 personality types to make our life colorful.

Also remember, “You have to color outside the lines once in a while to make your life a Masterpiece!”

Nugget of Life: Just because you don’t look like the other “crayons” in the box, that does not mean you cannot make the most beautiful pictures! Don’t ever give up on You!

Have a colorful week,

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
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Posted by on July 12, 2012 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 57 Life is a journey!

“Life is a journey, not a destination.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

Hi friends,

This week I’d like to share with you an analogy of life compared to a journey. We all travel from time to time, sometimes short distances, sometimes long but we always know where we are going and that place is called our destination. Many of us like the kids Kevin and Lindsey in the movie “ARE WE THERE YET?” instead of enjoying the trip, impatiently keep looking out of the window and ask ourselves the same question “Are we there yet?”

 In a hurry to reach our destination, we often forget to enjoy the journey. The same thing is applicable to our Life too. Often we hurry through the seasons of our life impatient to arrive and forget to enjoy the present moment.  I love the write up by Robert J Hastings which concludes like this:

The station is an illusion…it constantly outdistances us. So stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles. Instead, swim more rivers, climb more mountains,kiss more babies, count more stars. Laugh more and cry less. Go barefoot oftener. Eat more ice cream. Ride more merry-go-rounds. Watch more sunsets. Life must be lived as we go along. The station will come soon enough.- Robet .J .Hastings The Station

We live in an age obsessed with speed and instant gratification. Immediate and instant may not always be best especially when it comes to our speed of life ; we need to slow down and celebrate our life for what it is.To stop and take time to smell the roses in our life. “In fact, our life’s  journey is not to arrive at the grave quiet and safely preserved in a box but rather to skid in sideways, well-used and loudly proclaiming…WOW! What a ride!” – Author Unknown

We can learn a lesson from Beezee Bee who actually takes the time to stop and smell the roses in its life.

http://youtu.be/RYgEQGpWXFQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RYgEQGpWXFQ

Nugget of Life : Life is a journey to enjoy, not  a destination to reach. Live for the journey,you may be amazed at what you discover along the way! 😉

Have an enjoyable week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
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Posted by on May 24, 2012 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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