RSS

Tag Archives: JOY

Nugget # 99 Life lesson from a pair of 3D glasses!

-Teenager-watching-a-3D-movie-with-retro-3D-glasses-Hi friends,

With the summer vacation here, my elder son and I were watching the adventure movie Spy Kids.  Having finished Part 1& 2, we were eager to see Part 3. I repeatedly tried different movie links to find the 3rd part online but was disappointed for the movie kept appearing blurred. Wondering why this was the case with all the links, I checked again. It is then that I noticed the title which said Spy Kids 3D. The movie was intended to be watched with 3D glasses, only then would it appear clear. That set me thinking & thus was born this week’s nugget! 🙂

3D_glassesThe technology behind how the 3 D glasses work is simply to recreate the way humans see normally. In other words, since our eyes are about 2 inches apart, they see the same picture from slightly different angles. Our brain then correlates the images it sees in the 2 eyes; this is called binocular vision. 3 D glasses work on this principle. A 3D film viewed without the glasses is a strange sight as it appears fuzzy or out of focus. With the help of the 3D glasses, the same scene is now projected simultaneously from red and blue colored filters which separate the 2 different images so that each image enters only 1 eye. Our brain puts the 2 pictures back together and thus we see the image in a third dimension making us feel part of the action instead of being a mere spectator ! Hence we dodge the flying meteor or scream in excitement as objects fly off the screen.
As we apply this same principle to our life, we can see that just as in the matter of the 3D movie, the different angles was the real cause of the blurry images which could be corrected by using the 3D glasses. Similarly our outlook on life depends greatly on the perspective we choose to view it from.

a diff approach
There are many problems in life that we could easily overcome if we would just see things from a fresher perspective. For instance, a person we know rushes past us and we presume it was just because they wanted to avoid us but in reality the person may not even have noticed us or even could’ve been rushing to use the washroom 🙂  I’ve learnt that the best thing to do in any situation is to always believe the best of everybody. If something may still be troubling us, we could try to clear the air by initiating a friendly chat with them. Sometimes people may just require some time alone to process things and cool off. But most often,when we choose to speak openly rather than make assumptions/ jump to conclusions,  we would be surprised as to how complicated our minds may unnecessarily make things.  Often this feedback would give us input to improve our communication skills.At best, the bond may be strengthened as qualities like genuine concern, honesty and authenticity are the best ingredients for a good friendship.

Be-Positive

Often a closed door may be God’s way of redirecting us to something better. Instead of banging on that door till it breaks down or till our fists bleed, we could trust Him for He sees the bigger picture. He knows what’s best for us and will ensure that everything will work out for our benefit & open the right door at the right time.alarm clock I am reminded of the time when my hubby as a teenager had to cancel a much awaited hiking trip planned with his friends as he was suddenly diagnosed with chicken pox. All his friends were going and there he was stuck at home itching all over! It may not have made sense to him at that time. In fact, it may even have seemed unfair at that time , however it made sense to him the following day when he heard the heart-wrenching news of how all his four friends who had gone for the trip had been sucked in by a sudden water spiral current and had drowned in the river they were swimming that evening. Had my hubby not fallen sick,he would’ve  gone with them & may have been the 5th victim of that unfortunate tragedy.Talking about perspective, what had appeared to him as an irritating, untimely obstacle was actually a perfectly timed blessing by the protecting hand of the All Knowing God. We can thus be comforted on our worst day that the very thing we may grumbling about, may actually be our biggest blessing in disguise. The best approach in life for us is : 1) to always be thankful for everything; whether or not it makes sense & 2) to live in the moment.“Life can only be understood backwards but it must be lived forwards.”-Soren Kierkegaard .

artist   wish or weed  what if i fall

3d-Glasses-89288

 

Nugget of Life: “The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes but in having new eyes.”- Marcel Proust

Have an awesome week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
Leave a comment

Posted by on July 10, 2016 in LIFE LESSONS, Uncategorized

 

Tags: , , , , , , , , ,

Nugget# 97 Life lessons from Baby N!

while-we-try-to-teach-our-children-all-about-life-our-children-teach-us-what-life-is-all-about9Hi friends,

As I was pondering on what to write this week, my one year old said forcefully “Sha”…I had heard baby N  say that word before and was wondering from where he had learnt it. I said “No Shaa baby… don’t say Shaa..”  But he continued to repeat it over and over again. There were many words that I had been repeating and reciting to him and he was learning; but here was this expression …that he had effortlessly picked up….and was repeating.

Later that afternoon as I was clearing up after lunch, I noticed baby quickly crawl into the kitchen and pick up something from the kitchen floor and put it into his mouth… “Sha”… escaped my lips as I ran to take that particle from baby’s mouth and quickly dispose it off. That’s when I realized to my utter amazement the source from where baby N had picked up his new fav phrase! shocked-smiley-emoticon

That set me thinking…

1)How often when we act mindlessly or sometimes due to preoccupation with many things, we may  respond in a way that may not even be aware of.

2)People who look up to us often catch the things we least expect them to and so we have to make a deliberate effort to be intentional (as much as possible) with our words as they do influence others.

To continue the story,  I couldn’t help laughing out aloud as I watched my lil one’s mischievous grin & sparkling  eyes as he was enjoy repeating “Sha” every time I tried to make him stop.

Let me apply this nugget to our life. Whenever we find imbalance in any area of our life, we usually think of change. To facilitate this,(full of good intentions) we make resolutions as we decide to strengthen our will to say “NO” to the addiction (be it food, TV, sports, work, people, shopping, drugs etc) Ironically, though we may succeed initially, it is only a matter of time that we will soon get tired of resistance & throw in the towel.

By doing this, we repeat the mistake that I made when correcting my baby. While correcting him, I had tried to make him stop by focusing fully ONLY on what needed to be changed. Unknowingly I had drawn both of our attention to that which we actually needed to forget. Was it any surprise that he remembered that word perfectly? The right way to correct baby was to teach him another word or to distract him or to entertain him with something more interesting that would make him forget what he was repeating. The same thing applies to us. Sharing  below some practical tips to help us overcome old habits /learn new ones.animated-smileys-thinking-20

Sparky Laurie’s 10 Rs to either learn /unlearn something: 

  1. Reason – Prepare a Declaration of Freedom for ourselves by listing the reasons why we choose to break free from that habit or learn a new way of life.
  2. Remind – Keep a print out of the Declaration (mentioned above) in front of us to empower us as we realize that we have chosen to break the power of the bad habit over us and be its slave no more/ Or work intentionally towards the goals we plan to achieve.
  3. Replenish – When we are tempted (to give in or give up),we could think of an appealing alternative action that we could engage in rather than use that time and energy in combat.
  4. Relate –  Seek a support system, for instance call up a favorite friend/parent/ relative  and converse about anything else except our struggle. No matter how many times it tries to creep into the conversation, switch gears. Give it neither our attention nor our time.
  5. Repeat- Say aloud, “I am made for better things than this. I will live my life to its fullest.”
  6. Review – Make a bucket list of the impossible things we would like to try in our life time. Even updating it when we hit our lowest point would uplift us and bring us back on track.
  7. Relax-Take a break, go out for a walk, breathe slowly. Get some sunshine. Feel the breeze. Smell the flowers. Thank God for life.
  8. Refresh –Do something for brightening up someone else’s day. Give someone a lift, smile at a passerby.
  9. Rejoice- Watch a Madea movie and laugh out loud… its wisdom and humor all in one!
  10. Recreate –Everyone is made in the image of God and He has deposited a part of Him in every one of us. Our gift is that which we could naturally do, that which brings us joy, that which excites & invigorates us. “That which honors God, blesses others and delights your heart, that is your calling, that’s your gift!” Discover and cherish your gift.

Coming back , I distracted baby N to see and enjoy a few other things and finally he stopped what he was initially saying. And just when I thought I had nailed it , ….guess what?  …..Baby N says out aloud…. “Sha…” LOL…. 🙂 ….well, I guess that’s going to take a little more time!

success

The same may be the case with many of us as we try to overcome or learn new things. Always remember that No matter how many times we fail, each time we emerge stronger if we determine to learn and persist.

baby-pooh-icon-emoticon-032Nugget of Life : “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”- Socrates

Have a fun filled week,

Cheers,

Sparky laurie

 

 

 

Tags: , , , , , , , , , ,

Nugget# 96 Life lesson from SUE THOMAS: F.B.Eye!

08

Sue(Deanne) with Levi (Jesse)…Notice his ID!! 🙂

Hi Friends,

Firstly, let me apologize for not being around for a while. Hope you’ve been doing great. At my end, I’ve been going through some fine learning experiences here in the University of Life. Nobody really prefers to enroll at the School of Life’s Hard Knocks and this post is especially dedicated to all those of us who have graduated from there! 🙂

img20021188527hi

The real Sue Thomas F.B.I. with her hearing dog Grace!

I’ve recently been enjoying watching the famous Sue ThomasF.B.Eye,a critically acclaimed groundbreaking TV series inspired by the true story of Sue Thomas,who although profoundly deaf from the age of 18 months, overcame significant obstacles to work surveillance for the F.B.I. Incidentally, Deanne Bray, who plays the role of Sue is herself a severely deaf actress who was also strongly encouraged by her parents to speak and read lips.

As portrayed in the series, Sue Thomas is about to start her first real job – which happens to be with the F.B.I. Though initially underestimated, very soon she is recognized for her intelligence and unique lip reading skills and she lives her hard earned dream when she along with her adorable hearing dog Levi join the bureau’s elite surveillance team.

78849-1

The awesome team from (Left-Right)  Dimitri,Tara,Bobby,Lucy,Myles,Levi,Sue & Jack

Joining Sue, Levi and Jack on the team are Bobby Manning, a charismatic agent who likes to bend the rules; Dimitrius Gans, the senior member of the surveillance unit; Lucy Dotson, the team’s right hand support person and Sue’s best friend & roommate ; Myles Leland III, the Boston born, Harvard educated, self-proclaimed ‘Einstein with a gun;’ and Tara Williams, the quirky but brilliant go-to tech expert.

This is a show about courage & perseverance, it not only keeps us on the edge of our seat, but also makes us laugh & cry. Though there are many lessons that one could learn from this delightful series (a real breath of fresh air in the highly contaminated & toxic atmosphere of TV entertainment today), the one that I would like to share is IDENTITY.

When we split up the word Identity, we come up with ‘I’  & ‘dent.’ The pronoun ‘I’ refers to the real us without any apology, compromise or mask ; it refers to the basic core of who we really are,our strengths and weaknesses just as they are.

The other part dent refers to 1) a notch or hollow made by a blow or pressure. 2) An impression or effect made usually against resistance.

Like I said in the beginning, we are all dented by life. To succeed, we need to grab life by the horns anyway with absolutely no excuses and seek to live out our dreams boldly and courageously no matter what the odds or obstacles. In the story, Sue cannot hear and even speaks with a lisp. But she uses what she has which is her unique lip reading skills that she has worked on since her childhood. Her mother has been her guiding force always reminding her that in spite of her disability, she could be everything she wanted to as long as she worked twice as hard. She skates, sings and plays the piano as well. If she was like any other person, I doubt she would have inspired us as much. It is her ‘Dent’ that makes her so beautiful and compassionate. She knows what it is to be unwanted, to be the odd one out. And that is what causes her to select Levi in spite of the abuse that he had been through. She in a way empowers him and he ends up saving her life!

It is when we fully accept the ‘I’ in Identity, which includes the good, bad and the ugly (dents & all)…. both in ourselves as well as in others , That is the divine moment when we have ceased to simply exist and truly live our life to its fullest!animated-flower-image-0091 Click for the  WHO I AM song with favorite sneak peeks from the Sue Thomas: F.B.Eye …Enjoy!

animated-dance-smiley-image-0044Nugget of Life : “When you know yourself, you are empowered. When you accept yourself, you are invincible.”-Tina Lifford

Have an awesome week,

Cheers,

Sparky laurie

 

 

Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , ,

Nugget # 74 Life is an Adventure!

Hi friends,

An adventure is defined as an exciting or unusual experience; it may also be a bold, usually risky undertaking, with an uncertain outcome. This week’s post being Life is an Adventure, I thought I’d go ahead and share something different and special. Given below are a string of quotes/pics related to ADVENTURE. Hope you enjoy the journey! After all, “The best journeys in life are those that answer questions you never thought to ask.”- Rich Ridgeway

 

Nugget of Life: If you want something you’ve never had, then  you’ve got to do something you’ve never done!

Have an Adventurous week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
4 Comments

Posted by on September 23, 2012 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

Tags: , , , , , ,

Nugget # 65 Life is like a See-saw!

Hi friends,

This week I would like to compare Life to a See-saw.

Life is like a See-saw with its every ‘down’, there is an ‘up’.

As mentioned in my earlier post, many times things change in our life rather unexpectedly. People change, situations change, obstacles and problems change and we learn to change in order to cope with this ever changing life. Just as for the see-saw to be proper in its functioning, it has to be in movement with one side up and the other side down, the see-saw of life too is never static and always changes with one side up and the other side down. The only one constant in this See-saw of Life is our relationship with God.

While on the Down-side of life, it is good to remember the eaglet story in which the momma eagle pushes her baby off the edge in order that it will flap its wings and learn to fly first and then soar high. Often we may feel the dread of the little eaglet as we reach the edge of the precipice and are pushed hard by the hand of circumstance into the unknown.  But as we step out of our comfort zone, we can be sure of one thing and that is we can never fall beyond where His able hands will catch us. It is in such situations that we learn of an inner strength that we possess that helps us to let go and let God and that becomes our Up-side! 🙂

Nugget of Life: “It is always darkest before the dawn, so if it’s your down phase now, hang in there because your up phase is right round the corner”

Have a wonderful week,

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
4 Comments

Posted by on July 19, 2012 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

Tags: , , , , , , ,

Nugget # 57 Life is a journey!

“Life is a journey, not a destination.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

Hi friends,

This week I’d like to share with you an analogy of life compared to a journey. We all travel from time to time, sometimes short distances, sometimes long but we always know where we are going and that place is called our destination. Many of us like the kids Kevin and Lindsey in the movie “ARE WE THERE YET?” instead of enjoying the trip, impatiently keep looking out of the window and ask ourselves the same question “Are we there yet?”

 In a hurry to reach our destination, we often forget to enjoy the journey. The same thing is applicable to our Life too. Often we hurry through the seasons of our life impatient to arrive and forget to enjoy the present moment.  I love the write up by Robert J Hastings which concludes like this:

The station is an illusion…it constantly outdistances us. So stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles. Instead, swim more rivers, climb more mountains,kiss more babies, count more stars. Laugh more and cry less. Go barefoot oftener. Eat more ice cream. Ride more merry-go-rounds. Watch more sunsets. Life must be lived as we go along. The station will come soon enough.- Robet .J .Hastings The Station

We live in an age obsessed with speed and instant gratification. Immediate and instant may not always be best especially when it comes to our speed of life ; we need to slow down and celebrate our life for what it is.To stop and take time to smell the roses in our life. “In fact, our life’s  journey is not to arrive at the grave quiet and safely preserved in a box but rather to skid in sideways, well-used and loudly proclaiming…WOW! What a ride!” – Author Unknown

We can learn a lesson from Beezee Bee who actually takes the time to stop and smell the roses in its life.

http://youtu.be/RYgEQGpWXFQ

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RYgEQGpWXFQ

Nugget of Life : Life is a journey to enjoy, not  a destination to reach. Live for the journey,you may be amazed at what you discover along the way! 😉

Have an enjoyable week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
4 Comments

Posted by on May 24, 2012 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

Tags: , , , , , , ,

Nugget # 54 Life lesson from a Masala-Box!

“ Pleasure and pain, though directly opposite, are yet so contrived by nature as to be constant companions; and it is a fact that the same motions and muscles of the face are employed both in laughing and crying.”- Charron

Hi friends,

This week I’d like to share a special life lesson I learnt from Shirley an acquaintance of mine. She compared the human emotions of man to different cooking ingredients viz, salt, chilly, turmeric, coriander, pepper,etc.That set me thinking and I came up with this powerful nugget! 😉

All of us are familiar with Emotions, both positive and negative. Positive emotions include joy, happiness,  excitement, gratitude, pleasure etc. Some examples of Negative emotions are anger, fear, guilt, shame, pain. Often, in an attempt to be positive, we may try to ignore/eliminate our negative emotions. However, negative emotions are   actually useful information providers about our environment and they do have a very important place in our lives.

Let me illustrate this with a few egs : 1) A healthy fear before an exam ensures proper preparation. Fear out of control on the other hand may prevent us from even appearing for the exam. 2) Anger expressed in a controlled manner commands the respect of others and also ensures that we get what we want in life rather than blindly accepting anything offered to us whether we want it or not.

Using the ingredients from a masala-box out of proportion (too little salt or too much of pepper/chilly) will definitely spoil the curry. Similarly we require both positive and negative emotions to the right degree in our life for a properly balanced personality. In other words, the right degree of negative and positive emotions spice up our lives just as all the ingredients of the masala box make a delicious curry.

 “ A middle estate is safest; as a middle temper of the sea, between a still calm and a violent tempest, is most helpful to convey the mariner to his haven.”- Swinnock.

You see friends, nothing in this life is an unmixed blessing; so let us be wise and walk the middle path; enjoy its benefits and shun its evils.

 

Nugget of Life : My dad always says “Too much of anything is good for nothing!”

Have a marvelous week!

Cheers,
Sparky Laurie

 
2 Comments

Posted by on May 5, 2012 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

Tags: , , , , , , , ,