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Nugget # 107 Life lesson from the cartoon Little People!

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Hi friends,

Hope you are doing well. This morning as I was watching an episode of the cartoon ‘Little People’ with my son, this nugget sprung up. I found it simple but profound & am sharing it. Hope you enjoy it ! 🙂

In this episode, Eddie (the boy in the pic) claims that he is not afraid of anything at all. His friends say that everyone is afraid of something & they try to find out what his fear is. Eddie continues to brag that he is not afraid of anything. Suddenly it thunders and begins to rain. Seeing a flash of lightning, Eddie runs into a cave screaming in terror.That’s when they realize what Eddie’s fear is. They help him overcome the fear. His friend Lion asks him “to name his fear and then tame it”. They show him how to tame it by roaring back loudly at the thunder and lightning. Eddie slowly comes out of the cave (his hiding place) & starts roaring loudly at his fear. He repeats this many times & then slowly smiles realizing that he has overcome his fear.cheated

The same thing applies to our life too. All of us have our own personal fears, some more obvious than others. The truth however is that until and unless we identify (name) the fear- we will not be able to manage it -(tame it). So the first step is honesty, firstly with ourselves and then with those we can trust. Once we have named it, we can tame it by taking small steps or actions in that area to overcome our fear.Like Eddie had to come out of his hiding place to do what the brave Lion had asked him to do, we may have to leave our comfort zone and ‘do things afraid’ so that we can conquer our fear. And when we repeatedly expose ourselves to our fear we will realize that it is not as scary as we thought it was. 🙂

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5gtvNugget of Life : ” Do the thing you fear most and the death of fear is certain.”- Mark Twain

Have an adventurous week.

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

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Posted by on October 16, 2017 in LIFE LESSONS, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 104 Life lessons from Flying birds!

birds_flying_in_formation_md_wm_v2Hi friends,

Hope you are all doing well. It’s been a while since I’ve penned down something. These days with winter setting in, we can see some clear changes in the environment around us. The days seem shorter and the nights seem longer. It is indeed a sight to behold different kinds of birds flying surprisingly rather low and in large numbers across the sky and watching them has become my latest hobby! 🙂 Let me share with you a few thoughts that come to mind when I think of them! I have categorized them into 6 Fs. Let us see them one by one!

  • Flexible – The birds are flexible. They are not rigid in their flight. They change their patterns of flying according to the others in the flock. They are not stubborn or egoistical but are focused on their destination. We can learn from them how to be flexible especially when working in a team.
  • Fun – Though their flight is headed towards a particular place, the birds do not forget to have fun on the way. They don’t forget to sing and there is a grace and speed when they fly. They are not bored or lazy but enjoy the flying. Similarly, we too should ensure that we have kept enough margin for hobbies, rest and relaxation in our To Do Lists. When we can make our work fun by innovation and using our creativity and whatever talents we may have, it is then that we will actually begin to enjoy our work.
  • Fit – The bodies of birds are usually fit for flight. If they are overweight, they will be slowed down and will not be able to keep pace and fly in sync with the other birds. The same thing can be applied to us too. Being fit gives us the stamina and positive energy we require to fly high in life.
  • Flocks – Birds usually fly in flocks. As the saying goes, “Birds of a feather flock together.” We too should surround ourselves with the kind of people who have a similar vision and passion for life as we do. There is strength in unity but we need to make sure to associate with the right kind of people as we can learn from others and attain success more quickly than if we tried alone.
  • Fearless – The birds are fearless as they flap their wings and go higher and higher even against the wind. Their bodies are streamlined which enables them to fight against the air resistance by reducing friction so that the air will just glide past them without blocking it. Same thing applies to us.  What seems to us as our weakness may actually become our biggest blessing if we overcome fear and do what we can.Sometimes we may even have to ‘do it afraid’ but small victories will help us gain confidence to do better the next time.
  • Free – When thinking of a bird, the first phrase that comes to most of us is “as free as a bird!” That means we are completely free to do what we want without any worries. Most of the time we are not free because we are in the PAST or in the FUTURE. The antidote to this is to LIVE IN THE MOMENT- Present Tense! 🙂

Enjoy this lovely song called LIVING IN THE MOMENT by JASON MRAZ

https://youtu.be/ZoG-r34LokE

 

smiley-bird-emoticonNugget of Life: “Hold fast to dreams for if dreams die, Life is a broken winged bird that cannot fly”-Langston Hughes

Have a fun filled week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 

 
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Posted by on November 27, 2016 in Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 94 Life lesson from a Spider!

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Hi friends,

Hope you are all doing fine. Today, I’d like to share with you a nugget that came to mind recently. A few days ago as I stepped out to the terrace to hang a few wet clothes on the clothesline, I noticed an awfully attractive spider sitting in the centre of an amazing artistically spun web. It was a black spider with long thin legs stretched out royally and a fluorescent yellow ring around its centre. Rather than bother with the spider, I spread the clothes at the two ends of the rope far away from it. It having rained that night, the spread clothes were still damp when I went with my load of freshly washed laundry the next morning. This time I couldn’t ignore the spider due to lack of space and so I braced myself and watched the elegant spider shrink into a tiny ball as I hit it with my slipper. As I spread my clothes, two life lessons hit me. Let me share them with you.

  1. All of us face our own spiders that come into our lives uninvited making us uncomfortable. These may come in the form of negative mindsets,unwanted interferences or maybe even our own inner fears that loom before us and obstruct our progress. Very often, just as I had ignored the spider the first time( since I had enough space to spread my clothes), we too ignore these inconveniences until we finally come to the point where we have no other choice but to deal with them. How much better it is to deal with them constructively at the first instance itself than to wait for things to get worse!
  2. Watching the fearless spider majestically seated in its ornate web, I hesitated to disturb it. The same thing applies to those looming giants in our life that we are often intimidated by. Trying to avoid confrontation, we end up accommodating stuff even when we know we shouldn’t. However, when I realized I had no other way but to deal with the spider, all it took was one hit with my slipper for its grandeur to be reduced to nothing. The same thing applies to those confrontations that we have been postponing. No matter how alarming the giant before us may seem, it is that moment when we muster up the courage to face our fears and do what we can to make things work that we experience real freedom.                         

smiley-spiderNugget of Life: “Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.”- Dale Carnegie

 Have an adventurous week!

Cheers,

Sparkylaurie

 

 

 
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Posted by on August 14, 2014 in Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 70 Life is like Sailing!

 

“I find the great thing in this world is not so much where we stand, as in what direction we are moving: To reach the port of heaven, we must sail sometimes with the wind and sometimes against it-but we must sail, and not drift nor lie at anchor.”- Oliver Wendell Holmes

Hi friends,

The last couple of days have been ones of tremendous learning for me. So I just feel like having a heart to heart with you this week. While I’m happily employed now, I’ve found that there can be numerous things that being out of touch with can cause within us fear- the fear of appearing to be wrong. I asked myself more than once, why am I so afraid of being wrong? I wondered…. was it simple self protection or just plain vanity?

But then something my husband said really made me sit up and think hard. He asked me: “Laura, if only we would be just like our little boy; not afraid to make mistakes and ever so ready to learn and move on when we do, wouldn’t we be much happier?” The question to ask is Why is it that we as grownups get stuck instead of moving on?

Then and there I learnt a lesson, a good one too that revealed a hidden part of me that was somehow somewhere within so afraid of being wrong. Isn’t that exactly what our Lord Jesus meant by us becoming like little children- bold and unafraid?

And so I’ve decided to set my sails up; ready to face the wind, a smile on my face, come what may, I am going to enjoy the ride. Wishing you the same 🙂

Nugget of Life : “A Ship is safe in the harbor, but that’s not what ships are built for.”

Have a pleasant week.

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
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Posted by on August 23, 2012 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 5 LIFE IS A MAZE OF PASSAGES

Life is no straight and easy corridor along which we travel free & unhampered, but a maze of passages, through which we must seek our way, lost and confused, now & again checked in a blind alley. But always, if we have faith, God will open a door for us, not perhaps one that we ourselves would ever have thought of, but one that will ultimately prove good for us.”-A J Cronin

As we stand at the doorway to enter the maze of life, we wish that it was simpler- maybe a straight and easy corridor…with no twists and turns and so no bumps and burns! However, the truth is that life is a maze of passages that take us to totally unexpected & unforeseen places. Many times, it is the “unknown” that fills us with anxiety about the journey ahead.With no guarantee that we will never lose our way/bump into a wall,we gather up our courage,set foot in the maze and start our journey. Abruptly, we find ourselves at a dead end. Disappointed & angry, we shed a few tears. But determined to make it, we get up and keep trying, carefully avoiding our previous mistakes. The path that we select may not be the right one but as long as we keep moving, we find ourselves less confused and more confident. As we reach closer to our destination, we find ourselves strangely amused by the challenging turnings, ironically enjoying the journey we initially dreaded! We keep moving on and suddenly reach a door. Curiously, we turn the door knob, startled; we find a shortcut that takes us straight to our destination. We realize ruefully that the journey is over!

Once again at the doorway, this time at the EXIT, we look back gratefully and realize that it was for a purpose that the maze was not a boring, straight and easy corridor. For it was this complicated, confusing and challenging maze of passages that tested and revealed to us- an inner strength and hidden potential lying dormant that we would otherwise never have known.

We reach home transformed, thanks to that complicated maze of passages!

NUGGET OF LIFE:  LIFE’S DIFFICULTIES ARE NOT TO BREAK US, BUT TO MAKE US.

LET US THUS FAIL OUR WAY TO SUCCESS!

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Posted by on May 31, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 3 LIFE IS LIKE A CAFETERIA

 “Life is like a Cafeteria. You take your tray, select your food and pay at the other end. You can get anything you want as long as you’re willing to pay the price. If you wait for people to serve you, you will wait forever. Life is like that too. You make the choices and pay the price.”-Author Unknown

Life is like a cafeteria!

Just like a good cafeteria will offer you a wide range of delicious food to choose from, life offers us a myriad of opportunities to choose from. The options are there before us and we need to grab hold of what we want before it is too late! Why do some succeed while others only remain to watch others succeed? This is not due to the lack of opportunity or availability of resources but due to the differences in response.

Inspired by the above quote, let me introduce you to 10 kinds of people standing in a Cafeteria line and each responding differently leading to his /her failure or success :

1) The person who doesn’t really know what he wants: Is it a sweet/savory, vegetarian /non vegan dish that he would like?-These kinds of people will never be satisfied simply because they don’t know what they really want. They need to spend some time and find out what they really want and then go get it and pay the price.

2) The person who knows what he wants but is not willing to take a risk for fear of appearing foolish or being mistaken: These people never achieve anything coz they believed their fears and not their heart to follow their dreams.

3) The one who selects exactly what the person in front of him took, not bcoz he wants that but bcoz he has minimized his risk by avoiding to make his own choices- This refers to those who play it safe in life by going with the current, doing what everyone else is doing and so avoid the risk of criticism or failure. These people appear to be doing great on the outside,however, in their hearts they know that they haven’t got what they really wanted as they have settled for something less!

4) Those who wait too long ,so that by  the time they have made up their mind, the bell rings and the cafeteria closes ! – Life is too short and uncertain to take forever to make our choices. I’d say enjoy what you can, while you can!

5)Those who go to the other extreme and make hasty ,irrational choices and buy too many of the same kind too quickly, thus ruining their chance of trying another delicacy-This refers to those kinds of people who thrive on instant gratification of the senses ,never considering the other options available and thus make foolish choices which they regret later.

6)Those who do not have enough money and so borrow from others and enjoy what they  like but later conveniently  forget to return the money.-This one is about those kind of people who forget to be grateful. The point to emphasize here is not the money but the ingratitude. You can pay back every dime and still have an ungrateful heart.

7)Those who have loaded pockets but miserly hearts and decide to go hungry rather than part with cash-In spite of having money,this type choose to go hungry,leaving just as they came.It is indeed ironical that sometimes the poor actually are richer than the rich.This refers to the miserly attitude of some people who never enjoy anything even if they can.

8)Those who come and check out their options,intend to buy but postpone their decision for a later time This refers to those kinds of workaholics who make enough money to buy the whole cafeteria and yet leave hungry! True, they may be too busy to sit down for a whole meal but they could surely have managed a few moments for a quick sandwich which would have given them more strength in their work. This refers to those people who are fun lovers at heart but spend all their life postponing and never end up having fun. They have everything in LIFE but sadly,they have no LIFE!

9)Then we can find the kind that come in check out the MENU and start finding fault and criticizing everything .They brag about the great cafeteria they could have run but the truth is they never do anything and they also leave hungry.-This refers to the those people who always find fault and criticize others who try to reach their dreams.Though these people may have greater ideas and even greater potential ,instead of using what they have and making the best of it,they choose to be negative and leave hungry!

10)And then there are those who check out the available options ,decide what they want, place it on the tray and sit down and enjoy their meal –These are the SUCCESSFUL people who know what they want, get what they want and enjoy what they want!

Question: Ask yourself which of the above 10 persons do I truly represent today by my life choices?Are there any changes that I’d like to make?

NUGGET OF LIFE:  SURVEY YOUR OPTIONS, CHOOSE WISELY AND THEN ENJOY! YOU PAY THE PRICE, SO MAKE SURE YOU GET WHAT YOU WANT!

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Posted by on May 30, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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