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Nugget# 97 Life lessons from Baby N!

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As I was pondering on what to write this week, my one year old said forcefully “Sha”…I had heard baby N  say that word before and was wondering from where he had learnt it. I said “No Shaa baby… don’t say Shaa..”  But he continued to repeat it over and over again. There were many words that I had been repeating and reciting to him and he was learning; but here was this expression …that he had effortlessly picked up….and was repeating.

Later that afternoon as I was clearing up after lunch, I noticed baby quickly crawl into the kitchen and pick up something from the kitchen floor and put it into his mouth… “Sha”… escaped my lips as I ran to take that particle from baby’s mouth and quickly dispose it off. That’s when I realized to my utter amazement the source from where baby N had picked up his new fav phrase! shocked-smiley-emoticon

That set me thinking…

1)How often when we act mindlessly or sometimes due to preoccupation with many things, we may  respond in a way that may not even be aware of.

2)People who look up to us often catch the things we least expect them to and so we have to make a deliberate effort to be intentional (as much as possible) with our words as they do influence others.

To continue the story,  I couldn’t help laughing out aloud as I watched my lil one’s mischievous grin & sparkling  eyes as he was enjoy repeating “Sha” every time I tried to make him stop.

Let me apply this nugget to our life. Whenever we find imbalance in any area of our life, we usually think of change. To facilitate this,(full of good intentions) we make resolutions as we decide to strengthen our will to say “NO” to the addiction (be it food, TV, sports, work, people, shopping, drugs etc) Ironically, though we may succeed initially, it is only a matter of time that we will soon get tired of resistance & throw in the towel.

By doing this, we repeat the mistake that I made when correcting my baby. While correcting him, I had tried to make him stop by focusing fully ONLY on what needed to be changed. Unknowingly I had drawn both of our attention to that which we actually needed to forget. Was it any surprise that he remembered that word perfectly? The right way to correct baby was to teach him another word or to distract him or to entertain him with something more interesting that would make him forget what he was repeating. The same thing applies to us. Sharing  below some practical tips to help us overcome old habits /learn new ones.animated-smileys-thinking-20

Sparky Laurie’s 10 Rs to either learn /unlearn something: 

  1. Reason – Prepare a Declaration of Freedom for ourselves by listing the reasons why we choose to break free from that habit or learn a new way of life.
  2. Remind – Keep a print out of the Declaration (mentioned above) in front of us to empower us as we realize that we have chosen to break the power of the bad habit over us and be its slave no more/ Or work intentionally towards the goals we plan to achieve.
  3. Replenish – When we are tempted (to give in or give up),we could think of an appealing alternative action that we could engage in rather than use that time and energy in combat.
  4. Relate –  Seek a support system, for instance call up a favorite friend/parent/ relative  and converse about anything else except our struggle. No matter how many times it tries to creep into the conversation, switch gears. Give it neither our attention nor our time.
  5. Repeat- Say aloud, “I am made for better things than this. I will live my life to its fullest.”
  6. Review – Make a bucket list of the impossible things we would like to try in our life time. Even updating it when we hit our lowest point would uplift us and bring us back on track.
  7. Relax-Take a break, go out for a walk, breathe slowly. Get some sunshine. Feel the breeze. Smell the flowers. Thank God for life.
  8. Refresh –Do something for brightening up someone else’s day. Give someone a lift, smile at a passerby.
  9. Rejoice- Watch a Madea movie and laugh out loud… its wisdom and humor all in one!
  10. Recreate –Everyone is made in the image of God and He has deposited a part of Him in every one of us. Our gift is that which we could naturally do, that which brings us joy, that which excites & invigorates us. “That which honors God, blesses others and delights your heart, that is your calling, that’s your gift!” Discover and cherish your gift.

Coming back , I distracted baby N to see and enjoy a few other things and finally he stopped what he was initially saying. And just when I thought I had nailed it , ….guess what?  …..Baby N says out aloud…. “Sha…” LOL…. 🙂 ….well, I guess that’s going to take a little more time!

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The same may be the case with many of us as we try to overcome or learn new things. Always remember that No matter how many times we fail, each time we emerge stronger if we determine to learn and persist.

baby-pooh-icon-emoticon-032Nugget of Life : “The secret of change is to focus all of your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new.”- Socrates

Have a fun filled week,

Cheers,

Sparky laurie

 

 

 

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Nugget# 96 Life lesson from SUE THOMAS: F.B.Eye!

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Sue(Deanne) with Levi (Jesse)…Notice his ID!! 🙂

Hi Friends,

Firstly, let me apologize for not being around for a while. Hope you’ve been doing great. At my end, I’ve been going through some fine learning experiences here in the University of Life. Nobody really prefers to enroll at the School of Life’s Hard Knocks and this post is especially dedicated to all those of us who have graduated from there! 🙂

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The real Sue Thomas F.B.I. with her hearing dog Grace!

I’ve recently been enjoying watching the famous Sue ThomasF.B.Eye,a critically acclaimed groundbreaking TV series inspired by the true story of Sue Thomas,who although profoundly deaf from the age of 18 months, overcame significant obstacles to work surveillance for the F.B.I. Incidentally, Deanne Bray, who plays the role of Sue is herself a severely deaf actress who was also strongly encouraged by her parents to speak and read lips.

As portrayed in the series, Sue Thomas is about to start her first real job – which happens to be with the F.B.I. Though initially underestimated, very soon she is recognized for her intelligence and unique lip reading skills and she lives her hard earned dream when she along with her adorable hearing dog Levi join the bureau’s elite surveillance team.

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The awesome team from (Left-Right)  Dimitri,Tara,Bobby,Lucy,Myles,Levi,Sue & Jack

Joining Sue, Levi and Jack on the team are Bobby Manning, a charismatic agent who likes to bend the rules; Dimitrius Gans, the senior member of the surveillance unit; Lucy Dotson, the team’s right hand support person and Sue’s best friend & roommate ; Myles Leland III, the Boston born, Harvard educated, self-proclaimed ‘Einstein with a gun;’ and Tara Williams, the quirky but brilliant go-to tech expert.

This is a show about courage & perseverance, it not only keeps us on the edge of our seat, but also makes us laugh & cry. Though there are many lessons that one could learn from this delightful series (a real breath of fresh air in the highly contaminated & toxic atmosphere of TV entertainment today), the one that I would like to share is IDENTITY.

When we split up the word Identity, we come up with ‘I’  & ‘dent.’ The pronoun ‘I’ refers to the real us without any apology, compromise or mask ; it refers to the basic core of who we really are,our strengths and weaknesses just as they are.

The other part dent refers to 1) a notch or hollow made by a blow or pressure. 2) An impression or effect made usually against resistance.

Like I said in the beginning, we are all dented by life. To succeed, we need to grab life by the horns anyway with absolutely no excuses and seek to live out our dreams boldly and courageously no matter what the odds or obstacles. In the story, Sue cannot hear and even speaks with a lisp. But she uses what she has which is her unique lip reading skills that she has worked on since her childhood. Her mother has been her guiding force always reminding her that in spite of her disability, she could be everything she wanted to as long as she worked twice as hard. She skates, sings and plays the piano as well. If she was like any other person, I doubt she would have inspired us as much. It is her ‘Dent’ that makes her so beautiful and compassionate. She knows what it is to be unwanted, to be the odd one out. And that is what causes her to select Levi in spite of the abuse that he had been through. She in a way empowers him and he ends up saving her life!

It is when we fully accept the ‘I’ in Identity, which includes the good, bad and the ugly (dents & all)…. both in ourselves as well as in others , That is the divine moment when we have ceased to simply exist and truly live our life to its fullest!animated-flower-image-0091 Click for the  WHO I AM song with favorite sneak peeks from the Sue Thomas: F.B.Eye …Enjoy!

animated-dance-smiley-image-0044Nugget of Life : “When you know yourself, you are empowered. When you accept yourself, you are invincible.”-Tina Lifford

Have an awesome week,

Cheers,

Sparky laurie

 

 

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Nugget # 87 Life is a Process!

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This week I’d like to share the importance of understanding one word and that is “PROCESS”. For the people of today’s generation, the word may be quite familiar with food processors which speed up our cooking , however the nugget I’d like to share talks about process in the opposite sense. Let me explain this with the help of an easily understood illustration. Consider a woman who just finds out she is pregnant, she is overjoyed and shares the good news with her loved ones. Some moments of pure bliss but as days and weeks go by, there comes the nausea and the tiredness and the vomiting and the aches and pains and suddenly it doesn’t all seem so much fun. So what does she do? Well, there is nothing else she can do but continue and let the process go on. As long as she goes on doing what she has to do, eating right, exercising right, taking her supplements and going for her regular check ups, the baby in her will grow healthier and then after her wait of 9 months, will come her moment of joy when she can finally hold the newborn baby in her hands.

The time and the sacrifices and the pain she undergoes will only make her baby more precious to her. The same thing applies to us in our life. All of us have to go through different processes in life and just like the lady, not every stage may be desirable, we need to stick with it and go through each stage with full cooperation in order to reach where we want to or get what we want. Some of us may have a dream that may seem in no way attainable as of today but if we consistently work towards smaller goals in that direction we will in the long run after having overcome many milestones, finally be able to reach where we once dreamt of reaching.

Friend, what is it that you would like to do or become in your wildest dream? Remember, you need to go through the process, every day should draw you nearer to your dream. Even when you feel like you haven’t achieved much , consistently keep trying to do more each day and one day you will find yourself living your dream.

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Nugget of Life : Keep on keeping on!

“Faith includes noticing the mess, the emptiness and discomfort and letting it be there until some light returns.”-Anne Lamott

Have an awesome week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
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Posted by on October 2, 2013 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 82 Life lesson from a crying School boy!

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Today as I helped my son get on his school bus, I watched an older child kicking and screaming and refusing to get on the bus. His mother and the bus helper tried to get him on and finally the driver had to help in getting the child on. Later we understood that the child was reluctant to go to school after his 1 whole week of vacation. This incident set me thinking and inspired me to write this nugget.

How very like that crying school boy we are when it comes to things that we know we should do but don’t feel like doing. Be it exercise/healthy living /work place issues or even relationships often we feel reluctant like that little boy and in our minds we kick and scream at even the idea of facing issues we don’t like to confront and would rather stay back home(in our comfort zone) Just as no good parent would allow this to happen so also we must discipline our flesh from time to time by doing what is good for us  rather than what we feel like.

Just sharing some points that may help us in the transition of doing the right thing when we do not feel like it.

1)Write out the things that need to be done and tick them off as you go ahead.

2) Just focus on the next step. One thing at a time.

3)Think about the confusion that may arise by not doing the thing.

4)Accept that it is difficult but essential. Sometimes promising ourselves a reward can give us the necessary push to go ahead.

5)Brainstorm with others (friends or loved ones) about how they handle similar issues.

6)Mentally prepare ourselves  for the ordeal by reminding ourselves that we have to face the situation and there is no way out.

7)Train ourselves to think of solutions instead of excuses.

8)Last but not least, picture yourself smiling happily after having succeeded.

Be it small or large a task, the same set of principles can help us face that which we would rather avoid or procrastinate. Consistency is key as we continue to repeatedly conquer our mountains we will thus develop the attitude of a conqueror and will start to cherish such challenges.

animated_school_busNugget of Life : “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” -LaoTzu

Have an adventurous week!

Cheers,

Sparkylaurie

 

 
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Posted by on April 28, 2013 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 67 Life is like a Roller-coaster!

Hi friends,

This week has been a roller-coaster week for me and I sure am happy that I just hung on even when the ride got unpredictable! A picture is worth a 1000 words they say.Well, the quote below actually sums it all up 🙂

 Nugget of Life :”I would rather be ashes than dust! I would rather that my spark should burn out in a brilliant blaze than it should be stifled by dry rot. I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet. The proper function of man is to live, not to exist. I shall not waste my days in trying to prolong them. I shall use my time.”- Jack London

Have an awesome week,

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
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Posted by on August 2, 2012 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 60 Life lessons from a Car-ride!

Hi friends,

This week I would like to share some life lessons we could learn from a Car-ride.

1)     While riding, let the driver drive:- Sometimes while riding, it may appear to us that our car is closer to the other vehicles on the road than it actually is and though we may be tempted to express concern, we need to remember that the person actually behind the wheel knows best  and just enjoy the ride without distracting them.

Similarly, in life many times we may think we know what another person is going through and try to tell them what to do but the truth is that many times we just need to trust them and let them know that we are there if they need us.

 2)     Make sure that the fuel tank is full:- Travelling doubtful about the fuel level can be stressful. In addition, there are chances of the car breaking down.

In life also we need to take proper intervals of rest and refueling (nutritionally & recreationally) in order to ensure smooth sailing and avoiding break downs!

 

3)     Better safe than sorry:- We always need to abide by the traffic rules and regulations without over-speeding or cutting the queue while in traffic whether we are being watched or not.

In life too if we make it a habit to be a law abiding citizen whether someone is watching us or not, we will never need to fear being caught or punished.

4)     Know where you are going:- A person who does not know where he is going is unsure about which road to take and often this can be a nuisance to others. It’s always better to plan ahead before turning the ignition key. This enables us to take the best route available.

The same thing applies to life; when we know our goals, it becomes easier to reach there.

 

5)     When lost, it’s okay to ask for help: – Often on our way, we may get confused or miss a turning even though we thought we knew the way. In such cases, stopping and asking for directions is better than driving in circles.

In life too often even with all our plans and good intentions, we may lose our way, in such case, it is better to swallow our pride and ask for guidance by a person who has more experience in that area.


 6)     Look ahead:- If  a person drives a car forward only looking in the rear-view mirror, he will soon meet with disaster. He needs to focus on what is before him only with an occasional glance at the rear view mirror.

In life also once we have dealt with the past, we need to move on without allowing our past to swallow up our future. Byrd Baggett has said: Look at life through the windshield not the rear view mirror.
 

Nugget of Life :“The reason why your windshield is larger than your rear view mirror is because where you’re going, is greater than where you’ve been. Go. ”- Kirk Franklin

Have a wonderful week.

 Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
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Posted by on June 14, 2012 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 57 Life is a journey!

“Life is a journey, not a destination.” –Ralph Waldo Emerson

Hi friends,

This week I’d like to share with you an analogy of life compared to a journey. We all travel from time to time, sometimes short distances, sometimes long but we always know where we are going and that place is called our destination. Many of us like the kids Kevin and Lindsey in the movie “ARE WE THERE YET?” instead of enjoying the trip, impatiently keep looking out of the window and ask ourselves the same question “Are we there yet?”

 In a hurry to reach our destination, we often forget to enjoy the journey. The same thing is applicable to our Life too. Often we hurry through the seasons of our life impatient to arrive and forget to enjoy the present moment.  I love the write up by Robert J Hastings which concludes like this:

The station is an illusion…it constantly outdistances us. So stop pacing the aisles and counting the miles. Instead, swim more rivers, climb more mountains,kiss more babies, count more stars. Laugh more and cry less. Go barefoot oftener. Eat more ice cream. Ride more merry-go-rounds. Watch more sunsets. Life must be lived as we go along. The station will come soon enough.- Robet .J .Hastings The Station

We live in an age obsessed with speed and instant gratification. Immediate and instant may not always be best especially when it comes to our speed of life ; we need to slow down and celebrate our life for what it is.To stop and take time to smell the roses in our life. “In fact, our life’s  journey is not to arrive at the grave quiet and safely preserved in a box but rather to skid in sideways, well-used and loudly proclaiming…WOW! What a ride!” – Author Unknown

We can learn a lesson from Beezee Bee who actually takes the time to stop and smell the roses in its life.

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Nugget of Life : Life is a journey to enjoy, not  a destination to reach. Live for the journey,you may be amazed at what you discover along the way! 😉

Have an enjoyable week!

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 
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Posted by on May 24, 2012 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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