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Nugget # 36 Life lesson from a Baby-sitter!

Hi friends,

I think this is a good time to share with you a comment by a blogger buddy in a previous post (Nugget # 13). that actually made me sit up and think. In the 2nd part of her comment she mentioned that “her most effective teachers were often people who she had trouble with and that she was thankful for them in her life.” Wow… this was definitely a new one for me and I am sure for many of us. We often like to remember and learn from the people who bring happiness into our lives but how many of us ever consider as special the many unpleasant encounters we have everyday? With that as background, I’d like to share a special lesson I have learnt from a not so pleasant experience with a baby sitter!

The main reason we opted for this baby sitter was that she lived close by. We checked out the place and everything seemed okay.The next day I had my maternal separation pangs as I very reluctantly parted with my 8 months old baby for the first time and hurried off to work. I somehow finished work and rushed back relieved to find my son sleeping comfortably. Satisfied with the babysitter, I was about to close the deal and asked her the monthly charges. Her reply made me change my decision in the twinkling of an eye. After telling me her charges, she added that if she found that the baby was noisy/troublesome the rate would increase. On hearing that, the mother bear in me just growled angrily but somehow I kept my cool and told her that I would discuss the matter with my husband and get back to her.

It truly wouldn’t have mattered to me if she had asked for a higher charge. What caused me to change my decision was that she looked at my baby and haggled about the price as if he were a commodity of enterprise.  That made me seriously doubt the ability of this woman as a baby sitter who was cashing out on the unknown/ unpredictable behavior of a little baby. I immediately started my search for other babysitters. I told my husband that I was not going to allow her to go so easily and would give her a good piece of my mind along with the day’s charge. Though equally displeased with the sitter, my hubby (who is by nature easy- going & patient) told me that though my anger was totally justifiable I should just let it go. He explained that though people may behave badly with us and we definitely would like to just cut them off, we need not convey that to them since we never know when we may need them again. So I took his advice, swallowed my anger, prayed about it and said goodbye to the babysitter with a peace & grace that actually amazed both her and me ! Little did I know how prophetic my husband’s words would turn out!

That happened a few months later when my new babysitter had to change location due to her husband’s transfer and so there I was again in need of a babysitter. Boy was I glad I had followed my husband’s wise counsel that day! This time when I met with her, I noticed a marked difference in her. She seemed extremely considerate and took such good care of my son that I was literally surprised. When I spoke about the rates because my timings had now changed, she said in a slightly embarrassed tone that it didn’t really matter and she even gave me a very good discount! That day I saw firsthand evidence of “GOOD OVERCOME EVIL”.That incident taught me the power of believing the best about people and being kind enough to overlook an offense even when treated badly.Many times it may not be easy and sometimes to walk away in silence is all that we can do but whatever we do,we must do it from the heart.

Friend, I just want to encourage you today.All of us go through tough times in life and people often behave thoughtlessly or in an unkind manner, maybe even hurting us unknowingly, repay them by sowing a seed of kindness.Shame them with genuine love.Though change may not be as quick/dramatic as it was in the story above, it will surely come. I truly believe in the Law of Sowing & Reaping. [Some call it Karma] “As you sow, so you reap.”  If you sow love, you will reap love.  Results may not come as soon as we expect it or even in the way we expect it, but take my word for it, it will come in such abundance that it will leave you in open mouthed wonder!

Click here to watch this amazing Movie: CHANGE FOR A DOLLAR http://youtu.be/9DXL9vIUbWg

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9DXL9vIUbWg

Nugget of Life: “If what you have is not what you need, it’s not your harvest it is your seed!”No good deed is ever wasted.Sow a seed today and reap a harvest tomorrow.”

Have a wonder – filled week! 😉

PS: Travelling next week and so the post is early!

 Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 

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Posted by on November 29, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 35 Life lessons from FAMILY

“You don’t choose your family.They are God’s gift to you, as you are to them”.  ~Desmond TutuHi friends,

This festive time of the year always brings to our mind thoughts of HOME and FAMILY. The place where we grew up, learnt our first life lessons, fought with siblings, dreamt our first big dreams, had our favorite meals, learnt who we were and what we liked. The place we were easily understood and loved and finally the place that made us what we are today.

Some of us may not have the family we grew up with around us but all of us have that special place we call HOME- That haven where no matter what we are going through in life, we can always go to with rest and assurance in our heart that we will be loved, accepted and cherished; and that place is called HOME.

“The family is a haven in a heartless world.”  ~ Christopher Lasch

As we celebrate Thanksgiving and with holidays right round the corner,feeling a bit nostalgic, this week I’d like to share with you some unforgettable life lessons that I‘ve learnt from FAMILY. These are the values that in a way define each of them in my eyes and it is my daily prayer to inculcate some of each in me every day. This one is for you my FAMILY!

1) PAPA: GENEROSITY & HOSPITALITY– Papa has always had a heart full of kindness to share with others who come into our homes. He has always taught us to share what we have with those who are with us and never to leave a person who comes by without sharing a meal with them.

“I don’t care how poor a man is; if he has family, he’s rich.”  ~Dan Wilcox and Thad Mumford, “Identity Crisis,” M*A*S*H

2) MUMMY: HONESTY- As far as I can remember there is only 1 lie that mummy  has ever told me and that was when I was little and being taken to the hospital for a vaccination, I asked her mummy, are we going to the hospital and she said no. I went that day because I knew that my mother never lied. To this day I remind her of her one BIG LIE 😉 …. Jokes aside, mum has taught us to be truthful no matter what.

Family:  “A social unit where the father is concerned with parking space, the children with outer space, and the mother with closet space.” ~Evan Esar

3) My Elder Sister: – BOLDNESS:  Liza chechi’s   life-motto is ‘DON’T CARE ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK ABOUT YOU FOR THEY HARDLY EVER DO’. Her life is testimony to the wisdom of that statement.

“In some families, please is described as the magic word.  In our house, however, it was sorry.”  ~Margaret Laurence

4) My Younger brother:- DIPLOMACY : Lloyd is simply a whiz when it comes to people skills. He lives by the motto “Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!” He advocates learning from mistakes and never making the same again. He understands all kinds of people and knows how to tackle them with a finesse that I long to master some day!

“Call it a clan, call it a network, call it a tribe, call it a family.  Whatever you call it, whoever you are, you need one.”  ~Jane Howard

Click here to enjoy this lovely song: http://youtu.be/7NSQLMPUK-8

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  Nugget of Life :  “Family ties are precious threads no matter where we roam… they draw us close to those we love, and pull our hearts towards home!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Have a wonderful week,

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 

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Posted by on November 26, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 34 Life lessons from an Air-freshener!

Hi friends,

If I were to ask you to name a bathroom accessory universally found in every household ,chances are you will say soap/shampoo and yet there is one very important and yet often ignored toiletry in each of our homes ; THE AIR FRESHENER. It comes in different sizes,colors, fragrances,designs/ types and yet its basic features & function always remains the same. This week, I’d like to share with you 6 life-changing lessons from the air freshener. Reading this post, will give you a new respect for your much ignored air freshener. Trust me; you will never look at it with the same eyes ever again! 😉

1)The Air freshener is SELFLESS : It spreads fragrance where it is needed irrespective of whether/not it is responsible for the staleness/mustiness/bad odor. Often in life we may not be the cause for the “staleness” around us but we still can take responsibility to fight it by doing the good we can in our own small way. Oh! to be like that SELFLESS Air freshener which does its job anyway!

“This is what sets the tiny opal of a planet off from a million greater worlds – the possibility of KINDNESS- the possibility of CARE.”- Pam Brown

2)The Air freshener is FAITHFUL:  It takes only one/ two sprays to transform the atmosphere of a room. Often in life, we may wonder what good will come out of our small/insignificant acts of goodness. Truth is, we will never know; the power of a smile/a kind word/ a genuine compliment/a gift to someone in need /a listening ear/ a helping hand may even be the difference between life and death! Never underestimate your POWER to bring joy into another’s life.

“If you think you are too small to have an impact, try going to bed with a mosquito!”-Anita Roddick 😉

3)The Air Freshener is often INVISIBLE:  Do any of us pay attention to the air freshener unless it is actually needed? Many of our lives are just like that. We may be invisible to the world repeatedly doing our everyday duties faithfully and doing good to those around.Even when we do, the response we get may not be what we expect. Sometimes we may even be misunderstood/accused of selfish motives and disillusioned,we may even ask ourselves “Why did I even bother?” But the truth is that no good deed is ever wasted just like the seed which germinates all of a sudden, results will come when least expected.Let us never allow the reactions of others from stopping us doing the good we believe we need to do.

“It’s not what you do once in a while, it’s what you do day in and day out that makes the difference.”- Jenny Craig

4)The Air Freshener is FILLED:  As long as the Air freshener is full, the effect of the spray will always be there. Before it is emptied, it needs to get refilled or else it will be useless and thrown into the trash-can, no matter how useful it has been in the past. The same thing applies to us, we need to take good care of ourselves & always be in balance; getting the right rest/ nourishment/ strength/education/entertainment/encouragement we need. We can give to another only when we have enough and hence need to be kind to ourselves too.This may require us to prioritize / even say NO to some things in life. Somebody once called it “being SELFLESSLY SELFISH”. Well, if that is what we have to be,so be it. I think it’s always better to take time & recharge rather than to break down & recharge! 😉

“Guard within yourself that treasure, KINDNESS. Know how to give without hesitation, how to lose without regret, how to acquire without meanness.”- George Sand

5)The Air Freshener is an OPPORTUNIST:  Had the Air Freshener a choice of its sphere of influence, I’m sure it would never choose the musty/stinky places. Figuratively speaking, many of us are just like that air freshener and may be placed in situations we would rather choose not to be,but let us decide today that instead of using up our energy in fighting our circumstances and wishing things were different, let’s just makes the best of exactly what we have and where we have been placed.

“The best place to succeed is where you are, with what you have.”-Charles M Schwab

6)The Air freshener is an OPTIMIST: If the Air freshener were not an ideal optimist, I think, it would have given up on us a long time back. I mean, what does it get in return for every spray of freshness it gives out into the world? It is just used and then ignored until it is needed again but the Air freshener never gives up and slowly the room gets fresher and fresher. Similarly, we need to believe the best about ourselves and the people in our life and treat them as if they already were what they ought to be and thus help them in becoming better!

“Trust people and they will be true to you; treat them greatly and they will show themselves great.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson                                                             

 I love this quote by the character Claire Colburn, from the must-see movie ELIZABETH TOWN.

Click to watch this cute cartoon song: LET’S MAKE THE WORLD A BETTER PLACE http://youtu.be/OuJMl5ZmKc0 OR  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OuJMl5ZmKc0

“Never if possible lie down at night without being able to say: I have made one more human being at least a little wiser or a little happier or a little better this day.”- Charles Kingsley.

“If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain; If I can ease one life the aching, or cool one pain, or help one fainting robin unto his nest again, I shall not live in vain.”-Emily Dickinson

“If at the end, all that can be said of you is that you were kind, it is enough.”- Peter Gray B

 

Nugget of Life: “Happiness is like a perfume, you cannot give it away without getting a few drops on yourself!”-Author Unknown but greatly appreciated!

 

 Have a refreshing week,

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

Related post: BRIGHTEN THE CORNER WHERE YOU ARE

 

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Posted by on November 18, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 33 Life is an Experiment!

“All life is an experiment. The more experiments you make, the better.”- Ralph Waldo Emerson.

MISSION IMPOSSIBLE???

Hi friends,

According to Peter Bregman: “When we live life as an experiment, we are far more willing to take risks, to acknowledge failure, to learn and develop. That’s what experiments are all about: discovery and growth. There is no real failure in an experiment because it’s all data. If something doesn’t work, that’s simply data that leads to changing behavior to see if something else does work.”

What exactly do we mean by RISK? Taking a Risk does not mean we thoughtlessly endanger ourselves by being rash/ presumptuous. OTOH, it means we carefully evaluate our situation and take calculated risks. Again there is always a 50% chance of failure here but that would be better than the 100% chance of failure by never attempting anything at all.

To put it in a simple equation, Calculated Risk = Boldness + Forethought.

“Often the difference between a successful person and a failure is not one has better abilities or ideas but the courage that one has to bet on one’s ideas, to take a calculated risk – and to act.” – Andre Malraux

I love this quote by William Shedd: “A Ship is safe in harbor but that’s not what ships are for.”

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore, Dream, Discover.”-Mark Twain

Enjoy this poem which teaches us that everything really worth doing in life is a risk. So I’d say, GO AHEAD & JUST DO IT!

RISKS – Janet Rand

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool,
To weep is to risk being called sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk showing your true self.
To place your ideas and your dreams before the crowd is to risk being called naive.
To love is to risk not being loved in return,
To live is to risk dying,
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure

But risks must be taken, because the greatest risk in life is to risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn, feel, change, grow or love.
Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his freedom.
Only the person who risks is truly free.

Enjoy this amazing Video  LIFE = RISK : http://youtu.be/0yetHqWODp0

 

MISSION ACCOMPLISHED!!!
 
 
 
Nugget of Life : Take Risks; if you win, you will be happy. If you lose, you will be wise!

Have an adventurous week,

Cheers,

Sparky Laurie

 

Related Post : FACE UR FEARS & LIVE UR DREAMS,     LIFE IS A MAZE OF PASSAGES

 

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Posted by on November 11, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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Nugget # 32 Life is like a Storybook!

“Our life is like a storybook with many good tales to tell but our best stories will always be the ones of our random acts of kindness.”- Sparky Laurie

Hi friends,

This week I’d like to start by sharing a story that I recently came across.

“The Wise Woman’s Stone” 
A wise woman who was traveling in the mountains found a precious stone in a stream. The next day she met another traveler who was hungry, and the wise woman opened her bag to share her food. The hungry traveler saw the precious stone and asked the woman to give it to him. She did so without hesitation. The traveler left, rejoicing in his good fortune. He knew the stone was worth enough to give him security for a lifetime. But a few days later he came back to return the stone to the wise woman.
“I’ve been thinking,” he said, “I know how valuable the stone is, but I give it back in the hope that you can give me something even more precious. Give me what you have within you that enabled you to give me the stone.”-  Author Unknown

All of us have wonderful stories from the pages of our life to tell the world: stories of our fun times, successes, power, influence, strength, courage but the stories that will always be fondly remembered will be the stories of our humanity.

“The best portion of a good man’s life is his little, nameless, unremembered acts of kindness and of love.”-William Wordsworth

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”- Leo Buscaglia

“You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late.”-Ralph Waldo Emerson

“Wherever there is a human being, there is a chance for a kindness.”- Seneca

 “Kind words can be short and easy to speak but their echoes are truly endless.”-Mother Teresa

“Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.”- Philo

I expect to pass through this world but once; any good thing therefore that I can do, or any kindness that I can show to any fellow creature, let me do it now; let me not defer or neglect it, for I shall not pass this way again.”- Stephen Grellet.

“How far you go in life depends on you being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and the strong. Because someday in life you will have been all of these.”  George Washington Carver

Of all the people in our lives, I think the elderly and the aged deserve the cream of our heart’s kindness, love and respect. If only we would sit down with them and give them the gift of our “listening ears” and allow them to share with us their stories; the glorious & happy moments of their life! Often we forget that they have lived a full life before us and hence passed through every stage we go through. We enter a whole new world of wisdom as we learn from their valuable experiences. Often many of us presume that they wouldn’t want to be bothered and would like to be left alone with some peace and quiet but studies show that majority of  the old/aged would actually love good company. As in reality, they are lonely souls who are today’s forgotten heroes. Their once sturdy bodies now weak /bent over, their once smooth skin now wrinkled, their once lustrous hair may be just a few thin strands, their eyesight dimmer, their hearing impaired, their voices softer, their memories duller, their tempers shorter…. but if we just cared to look deep into their eyes and sincerely tell them how much they are needed, loved & appreciated, we will most definitely see a twinkle in their eyes, a spring in their step, a song in their heart and a soft smile on their face. That will be our divine moment; when even the vilest of us can feel a genuine holiness within; we will feel a high that no drug can give. That magical moment when we care enough to tell someone that they are loved and that they truly matter to us.Is there an aged person around you whom you can celebrate kindness with?

In this touching Video below, the Bollywood star Hrithik Roshan actually celebrates his grandmother’s 1st birthday*(watch to find out how) on the Grand Finale of the Just Dance Show 2011 It truly brought tears to my eyes as I saw the genuine kindness of this noble soul who cared enough to honor his grandparents in front of the whole watching world. Definitely a lesson we can all learn about not forgetting our roots when we bear fruits.

Click here to watch :   http://youtu.be/aSIdgjEG5Yk

 

 

Nugget of Life :Make your life a memorable story by doing all the good you can, to all the people you can, in all the ways you can, at all the times you can , by all the means you can as long as you ever can!”

Have a wonderful week,

 

Cheers,         

Sparky laurie

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Posted by on November 6, 2011 in NUGGETS OF LIFE, Uncategorized

 

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