This week I’d like to share a nugget from a story of a snake I came across through email.
Once upon a time there was a snake who was vicious, snarling, and dangerous. He terrified the villagers, bit the children and scared everyone. But the truth was that the snake sometimes felt lonely and craved companionship.
One day, a wise man wandered into the village. He clearly saw the chaos the snake’s actions had brought. He said to the snake, “ Listen up, snake. You’re not only making the people here unhappy, but you yourself are clearly miserable, so practice some kindness and gentleness to improve the lot of everyone here, including you.” And so the wise man went on his way.
Years later, the wise one happened to pass through that same village again. To his surprise, he saw an inert, passive plaything being kicked about by the children. He realized that this was, in fact, none other than the formally aggressive serpent he’d had words with years before. The snake managed to free himself from his tormentors and slide up to the man.
“Your advice was disastrous!” he hissed faintly. “Practicing gentleness has brought me complete misery! Now I’m used as a toy, laughed at, and taken for granted. I was better off before!”
The old man replied, “You took my advice too literally and without reflection. I said that you shouldn’t bite… but I didn’t say you should never hiss!”
In our life too, in order to be happy and fulfilled, we may have to maintain a balance between being too aggressive and being a door mat. And the right word for that is to be Assertive! It helps to remember that ‘there is strength in our diferences and there is comfort where we overlap!’
Nugget of Life: “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.”- Dita Von Teese. So, go ahead and just be you! 🙂
Have a wonderful week!