Nugget # 39 Life lesson in adversity

18 Dec

Hi friends,
The last few weeks have been life changing for me. Honestly speaking I was truly shaken to the core with every kind of adversity thrown against me all on a sudden. A fractured foot, misunderstandings, power failure,cold indifference , you name it, I experienced it. I was even asked “why can’t you think like others?” When I was asked the same question I‘ve often asked myself many times in the past, something inside me just broke. I think it was my spirit. To put things in simple words, I had hit rock bottom and was full of questions and with zero energy. Your sparky laurie had actually lost her “spark”! It was as if a dark cloud loomed over my horizon and I was paralysed to fight it!It was at this time that a very dear friend of mine (who inspite of having undergone a rough patch in her life recently ) stood by me with love and encouragement. Today she smiles with me as the sun shines on my horizon once again.Thank God for the wonderful gift of friendship! She is the kind of friend I aspire to be and I want to have forever!

The quote “In prosperity your friends know you, but in adversity you know your friends” suddenly became my life truth.  Today I realize how in the past I’ve wasted a lot of my time trying to make every relationship in my life work optimally , even some that never brought me any joy! In my simplistic way of thinking, I would tell myself if I would just be kinder or try harder, I could make this work but oft late I’ve realized that there is nothing more complex than human relations. People are not always straightforward and often behave in various ways because of different reasons and life is too short and too precious for us to sit and wonder why. Let us celebrate life with those wonderful people who we actually enjoy relating to, who understand and love us for who we are, who believe the best about us even when things may appear otherwise, who love us enough to confront and clarify maybe even correct us when we are wrong, whose thoughtful silences and kind actions speak louder to us than words, those special people the very thought of whom brings rest, freshness and joy in our minds. People who enrich our lives and whom we can learn from and grow with.
As I always say, there is a lesson to learn from everything in life and the lesson I learnt during this hard ordeal in my life was that some friendships work, some don’t and some change with time and that is alright! 😉

Nugget of life : “There comes a time in life when we have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who create it and surround ourselves with people who make us laugh so hard that we forget the bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy!

I take this opportunity to thank all of you my blogger friends who have spoken words of appreciation and encouragement to me especially in these last few weeks. Little did you know how much your kind words meant to me during that trying period of my life! Thank you from the depths of my heart! 😉
Have a fun filled week!
Sparky laurie


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14 responses to “Nugget # 39 Life lesson in adversity

  1. Ebony Brown

    December 20, 2011 at 12:18 am

    Sparkylaurie, I love this post, so honest and raw, and telling of your strength. I wrote a post regarding the people that we choose to keep in our lives. I’m heavily convinced that all that we’re going through in our lives is in part a huge culmination OUR own decisions – not anyone else’s – its nobody fault we are where we are, you know? (rhetorical). The decision to keep toxic folks closer to us than they should be allowed if at all – theirs an exception for family, but it shouldn’t be permissible for even them to suck the life out of us. We can definitely choose to be happier by learning from every scorning situation and just making better decisions moving forward. I’m so glad that through all of what you’ve gone through, you still had the strength to dig deep, channel your energy, write and be productive in ways that some folks are mustering up the strength to do everyday. Laurie you are light! Keep shinning!

    • sparkylaurie

      December 20, 2011 at 4:28 am

      Thanks Ebony,its amazing how easily you understand what I say. I feel tremendous relief every time I talk to you or read your posts. U have a generous spirit and are urself the epitome of strength and dignity.I’m so glad to have met you. My problem has always been that I think in a different way and people often misunderstand why I say and do certain things.Of course all of us ultimately want to love everyone in our life and keep everyone happy but that is impossible.So we do the best we can, learn ,grow and move on.Ure absolutely right there about family, in one way they are God’s greatest gifts to us and yes they are the ones who know us best but also who love us best inspite of that 😉 and so no matter what happens they are the ones we can be sure will stick by us thru the toughest times.Just sharing my thoughts thru the nuggets helps me to think clearly and get it out of my system and of course with this amazing support from all of you , I know I’ll be fine. Taking one day at a time hoping that I will do better tomorrow.;)
      Sparky Laurie
      PS: I am off to read the post you just mentioned, am sure it will give me some new insights! 😉

  2. Lloyd Jacob

    December 19, 2011 at 9:17 am

    that lil picture about the assignment…. lol..i just love that!! this nugget is really power packed.. way to go Sis!! its really amazing!!

    • sparkylaurie

      December 20, 2011 at 4:05 am

      Thanks Lloyd, for always being there for me thru my toughest times.I’m blessed to have a brother like you!;)

  3. breakitdownpete

    December 18, 2011 at 9:43 pm

    My heart pains that you lost your spark even for a nano-second! But i rest easy for i know thru your writings how strong a soul you have! Nugget of life : “There comes a time in life when we have to let go of all the pointless drama and the people who create it and surround ourselves with people who make us laugh so hard that we forget the bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be anything but happy! This Nugget tells me that your bad ass self is back!!!!!!! Peace! Move on and take the happiness that is yours! It’s ok to fight for YOU!

    • sparkylaurie

      December 19, 2011 at 2:51 am

      Wow… Pete I loved that comment! Thanks so much for that confidence in me!;) Im better yes and it feels great to have encouragement from wonderful people like you!
      Sparky Laurie

  4. Wayne Augden

    December 18, 2011 at 6:32 pm

    Hi Spark. I’m sorry to hear you were having a hard time. I wish I could have known it was you personally that was having a hard time. I pray for all my blogger friends, but wish I could have known so I could have prayed for you in particular. Praise God you’re doing better. 🙂

    • sparkylaurie

      December 19, 2011 at 3:00 am

      Thank you so much Wayne…I was that “froggie” in my previous post, trying my best to swim.Maybe I was so overwhelmed…but I ask you now, please do remember me in prayers especially as I continue to share in obedience to Christ all that He teaches me. My foot is healing and things are better,praise God.Nothing simply happens ; I learnt a valuable lesson from it! 😉
      Sparky Laurie

  5. Goss Coaching

    December 18, 2011 at 1:45 pm

    Sending you positive thoughts as you move through this challenging time. Sounds like you are already aware that it is also a time of incredible growth! Hanna

    • sparkylaurie

      December 19, 2011 at 3:03 am

      Thanks Hanna, so thoughtful and kind of you.Am doing much better and you are right : its part of the growth process. Sweet are the uses of adversity! 😉

  6. Noel Williams

    December 18, 2011 at 11:17 am

    Sparkylaurie, I am so sorry to learn that the sun wasn’t shining on your horizon. We all have those grey days when the sun does not come out at all. But glory be to God you had a earthly friend that was there to lift you up and help put some sun shine back in your life. God is always working in the spirit on our behalf but we do need that special person in the physical to help us smile again. Stay focus, stay positive and continue to seek God’s direction. He is our Shepard and he will lead us beside the still waters. Merry Christmas!

    • sparkylaurie

      December 19, 2011 at 3:10 am

      Amen Noel, loved this comment.I am often tired of spiritual people chiding us for not being “strong enough” to rely on God alone in our toughest times. Of course He is always there but sometimes we do need earthly comfort which is again God reaching out to us through His people.I praise God for wonderful people like you who care enough to share an encouraging word, it really means a lot.Psalms 23 provides rest for the troubled soul, thanks for that reference. I really feel much much better, thanks & Merry Christmas to you too! 😉

  7. Be Real Be Happy

    December 18, 2011 at 8:26 am

    Ms Sparky, thanks for writing this post. This very topic has been on my mind lately.

    • sparkylaurie

      December 19, 2011 at 3:11 am

      Thanks Ashley!Glad that something I learnt from my adversity could help you too! 😉


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